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writes:Ok, Hi guys. I'm new to this but really am out of ideas and have decided to ask people that dont know either me nor my partner and hope to get honest opinions.Background info really is i am 22 and she is 24, she has a 5 year old and lives by herself and child literally 2 seconds down the road (she moved there a few years ago as it was a house she liked)We have been on and off for 4 years now, things have always been interesting between us but we just seem to click, despite the fighting.We split up about 2-3 months ago as i was not the best boyfriend, not paying for stuff, not showing how committed i was and so on. We got back together after i won her back about a month ago and all has been good, few minor rows but i decorated her from room and bought a load of stuff..she is so happy with it.She always talks about us having kids and she knows that i want to marry her. We have even been talking about moving in together by the new year thats how good its been.We have been having such a laugh when we see eachother, the sex has been the best it ever has and ive been staying the night with her pretty much every night but ever since last weekend, things have been rubbish.Last weekend we saw eachother on the friday, went out for dinner and then spent the night chilling.. i went out on the saturday for my birthday with the lads and she was cool with that.. even ringing me just to say 'i love you' while i was out. The next day the footy is on so i ask to go to the pub, she cooked me a roast tho 1st :-/ feel abit bad for going out after but did the washing up and bought her bottles of wine to chill with. She said she was fine about it, she was. I came home n we had a good night again.All through the week has been cool, getting on great. ive been cooking and chilling with her as normal.Then we go out friday for a few drinks before we pop over to my mates to see them for a while, she has had a few drinks and makes abit of a scene. taking the mick out of me and showing off, even my friends were uncomfotable about it. We go to get a lift home and she blows up in my face. She gets rather agressive when she drinks.We get home after have calmed down for 5 min and i said i was going to get some more drink, laughing and joking with her and she blew up again, i left and said i cant be with her while she's like that. She rang me and rang me and said she was sorry for being a tw*t. I call her in the morning, its all my fault..I go round and make her smile and laugh n help her with her house work n garden, then i go out with my mum for dinner and forgot to call her after, instead i got some sleep before i went out again.She knew i was having a night with my mates and i said i would stay, i would be back about 11:30... is that unreasonable on a saturday?! we see eachother every day....She rang me while i was out to say her mum had bought her a holiday for her birthday! i was happy for her but then she turned around and kept saying 'ive just got to decide who im going to take' (if it was me, ide just say babe we going away) she trys to wind me up and i rose to it saying 'why are you just telling me then just to rub it in my face' she always winds me up.I rang back and said sorry but no good.Since then she has called me every name under the sun and said its over for good, i dont want what she wants, dont contact me..I dont get it, everything was fine other than me going out abit this week and telling eachother we love them all the time and now this...Ive ordered her flowers to her work but i told her when i rang her to ask WTF :-/I do a lot for her but i want to know what your take is people, thats if you havent fallen asleep :)
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reader, Unknown88 +, writes (23 August 2010):
Unknown88 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionIve tryed saying sorry and i was going to come home to her that night. She had the chance to go out on the friday and she turnt it down, why does that mean i shouldnt go out?!
We were ment to be going to london for the day this sunday and maybe we still will... best course of action is space i think.
Im not totally sure she is insecure, she is gorgeous and she knows it and i tell her how much i love her all the time, i got pictures of us printed out and put in a frame, even hung it in the front room that i was ment to be moving into in friday and when i popped round to give her a letter... they are still on the wall. Maybe she hasnt got round to taking them down but knowing her she would have done it straight away if she ment buisness..
Honestly i think she just got fed up of being in the house all weekend, maybe she's hormonal, maybe she's actually just had enough... its just a shock as things were so good before we went out on friday.
Il report back and let you know if i hear from her this week.
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reader, xXJDXx +, writes (22 August 2010):
To be honest with you she sounds very insecure... Insecure women WILL put their man down in front of anyone THEY feel threatened by.. If they make you out to look sh*tty there's less risk Antibes gonna try steal you.
Very strange I kno but it's true, been argumentative while drinking is just a side affect, especially if she was drinking a fair bit that week.
Although she may SAY she's ok with you going out, she doesn't mean it.. Once in a while obviously is fine but for an insecure person 2/3 times a week = YOUR CHEATING.
She played on the holiday to see how you'd react, if you acted like you DONT care who she takes in her mind you simply don't care.
You may love this girl, but people who are insecure are VERY hard partners to please. If you go back into this relationship be prepared for hard work, not to be away from her to much and your privacy invaded.
Good luck and take care, JD :)
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