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writes:okay well my friend and i talk about everything together but for some stupid reason hes ignoring me. For no reason wat so ever. It makes no sense whenever i trace my steps in the story. What is going on? well i have been talking to this guy he doesnt like and we flirt but thats it. He does the same to me except he calls them his um FWB's if u know what i mean. Why is he ignoring me? Is it because i talk to a guy he doesnt like?
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reader, dirtball +, writes (19 August 2010):
 There comes a point when you just need to give someone space. He'll come around. Do try to talk to him. I know some people who don't do well with conversation, but it is also the only way to really express what you're feeling. Written words leave too much for interpretation. Being able to hear the tone in someone's voice is important. He is likely uncomfortable talking about his feelings, and thus the minimal responses you're receiving.
Like I said, give him time. He'll start to miss you and come around. He needs to sort things out for himself right now. Otherwise, he'll prove he wasn't as good a friend as you thought. Good luck.
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reader, xoxDrkrosexox +, writes (19 August 2010):
xoxDrkrosexox is verified as being by the original poster of the questionim concerned about him because hes my best friend. Hes like a drug to me. Him and i have gone thru alot together and sepretely. He has talked to me last night but it was one or two word sentences which really ticked me off. He doesnt talk to ppl on the phone he just texts and im to far away now to go see him. Facebook and texting are our only way of communication. I'll try and call him now but im scared. Also i did tell him how i felt and he said 'Ok'....
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reader, xoxDrkrosexox +, writes (19 August 2010):
xoxDrkrosexox is verified as being by the original poster of the questionim concerned about him because hes my best friend. Hes like a drug to me. Him and i have gone thru alot together and sepretely. He has talked to me last night but it was one or two word sentences which really ticked me off. He doesnt talk to ppl on the phone he just texts and im to far away now to go see him. Facebook and texting are our only way of communication. I'll try and call him now but im scared. Also i did tell him how i felt and he said 'Ok'....
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reader, dirtball +, writes (19 August 2010):
"well i've tried everything sent him a text, sent him a message on facebook, and wrote on his wall. But its not working."
This seriously made me laugh. WTF is wrong with kids these days that they think this is communication. NEWS FLASH: THIS ISN'T COMMUNICATION!!! It is passive communication at best. You know what communication is? TALKING TO SOMEONE. As in face to face or over the phone. You haven't tried everything. Like heartbroken101 said, you could write a letter. You could send a singing telegram, you could send an email, you could leave a voicemail. There are lots of things you could try.
My question is, if you have a BF, why are you so concerned about this boy? He's likely backed off because he was starting to like you but since you're taken, he knew it wouldn't go anywhere. If he's a real friend, he'll start talking to you again when he's ready. If he was only interested in you for other reasons, he's not likely to be back till you're single.
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reader, heartbroken101  +, writes (19 August 2010):
 probably thinks that you had more to your relationship beacuse you flirted with him and he started to like you and did you say you have a boyfriend? if so...you flirting with him (even if you weren't intentionally) and then you having a boyfriend or even flirting (unintentionally...mayyybe) will make him feel jealous and think your playing games with him. just call him up and if he don't wanna talk then im so sorry but he wont until he wants to. you cant force him to talk. you've done all you can. send him a hand written letter if you know his address explaining everything your feeling. its very meaningful...much more then facebook or an sms.
goodluck
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reader, xoxDrkrosexox +, writes (18 August 2010):
xoxDrkrosexox is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks u guys. well i've tried everything sent him a text, sent him a message on facebook, and wrote on his wall. But its not working. i dont want to annoy him but i havent been getting much sleep. Last night i went to bed at 4:30. The day before 3:00. My boyfriend even sent him a message and my guy friend said he wasnt mad and that he'll talk to me. But he has yet to do so. This hurts. Yes he did like me. And everyonce in a while he'll say he does and then later he'll deny it. But hes really protective. I dont know anymore. He doesnt call me sexy or beautiful like he does to other girls but when we getin fights he always tells me hes sorry the next day and he doesnt do that with other girls. Or if we get in a serious fight like this one time he said 'ur always playin games with me'. Whats that supposed to mean?
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reader, dirtball +, writes (18 August 2010):
Yup, he probably liked you and is upset because you're slipping away, and to someone he doesn't like. If he's talking to you about his FWB's though, he probably realizes that it's a lost cause for him right now and has moved on. He wanted you to be a FWB too.
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reader, Blod  +, writes (18 August 2010):
 Probably. He's probably annoyed that you're talking to this other guy. I wouldn't be surprised if he sees him as competition and feels quite jealous of him. Ask him why he's ignoring you.
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reader, heartbroken101 +, writes (18 August 2010):
it could be because he is jealous? have you asked him why and confronted him about it just as friends and calmly instead of accusing him? it may also be because something personal may be happening at home or that he does like you and he's jealous because you flirt with this other guy. just talk to him calmly as a friend about whats happening.
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