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36-40,
*ushkitty420
writes:So I've had this friend (we're both straight females, just to take that out of the equation) for many, many MANY years. She's always been - well - 'easy' (for lack of a better/nicer term). She's divorced and has a couple young kids but none of that info has ever really slowed her down. Now, with-in the past month or two she has suddenly become much more conservative. She even told me (flat out) how suprised and sorta-proud of herself she was that she hadn't slept with anyone "in a whole month!" I of course told her that was awesome (I'm a text-book prude, I don't go beyond kissing unless it's with a committed boyfriend... which hasn't happened for maaaaany, maaaaany, ok lots of MANY moons)... anyway, I tried asking her in our 'code-talk' (I don't like talking about sex stuff so we use silly code-words) if she had any ideas that I could consider for my guys upcoming bday... she said that she wasn't really good with that kinda stuff and had no idea. Now, I know - for sure - she is fluent with this area, waaaay more so than I probably ever could imagine. My question is - (sorry for being so long-winded lol) - does anyone know why she would do such a 180 in this area? I thought she might be pregnant but she was just complaining about her monthly friend yesterday... I am worried there may be something more serious throwing her off than just a change in attitude... I don't want to pry especially if there's nothing wrong but I'm also rather concerned... Anyone else know someone that's done this type of thing and why?
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (17 May 2012):
 Perhaps she's become aware you think she's 'easy' (as opposed to any of the other kinder/gentler words you could have chosen) and has decided not to give you any more ammunition that you can use to judge her later?
Perhaps she didn't understand the code words you used for sex? Why not try asking again without the code? If talking about sex makes you uncomfortable, why do it?
Oh, maybe that's it. Maybe she's picked up on your unease on the entire topic of sex, penises, positions, vaginas, vulvas, orgasms and all those non-code words? I think she's doing you the favor of not contributing to your discomfort in that whole arena.
Why not give her the benefit of the doubt? That seems the kinder/gentler thing to do.
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