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writes:I have asked quite a few q's about this, each one being a little different. Anyway this person used to be my boyfriend but it didn't last long because we both didn't really know what we were doing and we both (even though he denied it) hurt eachother. It has been over 1/2 a year since our break up and to be honest it doesn't really bother me anymore. I'm still cross about what he did but I'm not bitter about it now. About 2 months ago (maybe longer not sure) we started talking again and it was really nice. I was surprised because he seemed as if he'd changed - he was really nice and funny, and he didn't react badly to certain things like he used to.I hardly ever started the conversations though, because I was too embarrassed and shy and I felt that I had to make HIM talk to me because of all the horrible things that he had done when we were together. So, one day last week I think it was, I finally decided to put the past behind me and start being proper friends with him again, as he seemed to be MUCH nicer. So..this time I started the conversation with a funny comment. He responded well too, but then a few sentences in he suddenly started saying 'yeah ok stop talking to me' and stuff like that, and I thought he was just being funny like he usually is these days, but then he really meant it, and said something like 'seriously I'm not in the mood'. So at that I just said 'ok...fine' and went away.The next day he started talking to me again and asked me what had happened the day before. I told him 'you know what happened' (I was feeling hurt still as you can tell XD ) and he kinda said 'not that, I mean, did anything happen?' I said to him that I didn't understand what he was on about, and he stopped talkng to me for a while, then he said, oh don't worry, I found out sorry. This next bit..well I know I shouldn't have said it... I said 'I wasn't worrying'. But then he really went too far and called be a fag etc. I decided not to react to this so just replied 'I don't really care' and left the conversation. That was a few days ago know and he hasn't spoken to me. I feel awful about what I did and really want to apologise, but when we were together whenever I apologised to him for doing something wrong he'd be all 'er yeah you should be' or 'ok whatever' and very offhand and rude and it would make me really upset.I don't know what to do anymore! I don't know why he's suddenly turned mean again.
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reader, angelDlite +, writes (5 June 2011):
 he just can't resist toying with you can he? he is nasty (coz he probably find this comes more naturally to him than being nice and speaking to you respectfully) and you let him get away with his bad behaviour by carrying on being nice to him when he is ready for a convo with you.
i suggest next time he starts talking to you, don't accept him and if he wants to know why, tell him he has turned on you too many times now so he can go stick it. someone who repeatedly hurts your feelings is not worth being friends with are they?
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