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writes:my boyfriend has been letting me down a lot recently so i told him i was having a week to myself to clear my head he said he was fine with this . i messaged him on facebook today (a week later) and could see he had read the message 2 hours later he said he was busy spending time with family , thats fine but for the next 4 hours he was on facebook doing whatever if he's spending time with family why would he be on facebook for 4 hours. , all id said to him was ok , and his reply involved swearing . i havent done anything wrong or been nasty to him i dont get why he has suddenly got a nasty attitude towards me he said he was busy so ive left him alone , i have a feeling hes going to end things should i dump him first ( other reasons too but too much other stuff to go into ) or wait even longer for him to talk to me nicely
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reader, Tisha-1  +, writes (27 December 2015):
 You use the word "suddenly" but you start with the phrase "my boyfriend has been letting me down a lot recently"...
Then you say "i havent done anything wrong or been nasty to him i dont get why he has suddenly got a nasty attitude towards me he said he was busy so ive left him alone , i have a feeling hes going to end things should i dump him first ( other reasons too but too much other stuff to go into ) or wait even longer for him to talk to me nicely"
So obviously there are problems you haven't shared here.
And it seems your question really is "should I dump him first"?
If you've had many problems, he's let you down, you have to do a mini-break to clear your head, then I would suggest, as nicely as possible, that this is a relationship that was on its last legs.
How long have you been with him and how much time had you spend together in real life?
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 December 2015): You need to be asking your boyfriend this question.Everybody is quick to advise you to dump him.But what do YOU want to do?Where is YOUR heart?This is not a game of one man up-man-ship. Of who dumps who first. It is supposed to be a mature, adult relationship. And being such, you need to COMMUNICATE with each other and try to see if things are salvageable FiRST.Try to work at it a bit. Relationships do involve some work. Talk first. I mean a good heart to heart.Then decide what to do next.Don't just throw it all away based on misunderstandings, ego and lack of communication.Ok?
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (26 December 2015):
 Who cares who "dumps" whom.... the DUMPER or the DUMPEE.. what difference does it make? IF the budding "relationship" is doomed, it's doomed...... No more assessments or considerations necessary.....
Good luck....
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 December 2015): Your over 30 meaning you should know that he is disrespecting you and should break all ties with him.. Why would you wait for him to calm down only for him to do the whole nonsense again. Meet someone better.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 December 2015): when you said you wanted a week to clear your head, he probably thought that you were going to dump him. in his mind it's probably over anyway. he probably feels that if you can go weeks without talking to him, you can surely go few more hours. in a way, he's probably saying to himself now she knows how it feels. whatever those other reasons arethat you wanted to dump him, it sounds like you should. don't expect him to take a well.
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