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writes:Ladies, can you help, me with a problem I have, am single, not a bad boy, the problem is, I don't know which women, to treat like a princess, an which ones, I should act like I don't care, the ones ,i treat fantastic, which has only been two, in ten years, the two, I felt, the chemistry was right,the others, I don't treat bad, but am not romantic, an they are the ones who fall for me, but if the chemistry isn't there , it isn't there,they think am a player, its not that, I want to fine a woman, I can spend the rest of my life pampering her, treat her like I don't want, or look at any other woman, so how do I know, if I should be romantic.
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (27 December 2015):
 Look for women without much emotional baggage and ready to be vulnerable. If a woman says she feels like running when she falls in love, it means you stay out of her life and don't let her waste your time. We would love to think that men take charge in the dating scene, and love just happens. Nowadays, there are many damaged souls. You have to weed through them to find a woman who wants to love and enjoy life.
I think you answered your own question. If you don't feel chemistry with a woman, you don't care about her. It's not something you have to purposefully do. You just leave her alone instead of letting her fall for you, stringing her along which is what you ex had been doing.
It's not you or your failed strategies (not that you need one). It's this sad world. People forget how to be happy and have fun.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (27 December 2015):
 My advice would be to get to know the woman a bit better. I gather from this post and your other posts on the topic, that you want to sweep a woman off her feet by showing her that you have very romantic ideas, like dancing on rose petals.
Dancing on rose petals might be very romantic but only in the right context. Having a man you barely know try to throw rose petals at your feet could be very uncomfortable for the average woman.
So you will need to get to know the woman you are dating a bit better. More in depth.
As you say that you've only done the whole super romance treatment twice in the past 10 years, then perhaps you aren't going over the top, but are expecting something from these women that they may just not feel right now.
I have to ask, how are you coping with the loss of your mother? I was very sorry to hear that she passed away on Christmas Day. Are you her only child or do you have brothers and/or sisters who will share the burden of loss with you?
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