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*ayla20
writes:i had a child 6 months ago and during the pregnancy as well as afterwards I've been put off of sex whenever my partner tries to be affectionate i feel like he is trying to have sex with me and it makes me almost reject him, i only seem to be interested in sex when he acts uninterested.He never looses out though even though i dont want intercourse i always end up doing it to satisfy him but i want to be able to do it and actually want it what advice would you give someone in this situation.I think because im so tense when it comes to sex it hurts and since having internals whilst in labour its made me really cautious when doing foreplay.i need some help to solve this as i dont want my partner feeling like i dont love him when i do
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reader, followtheblackrabbit  +, writes (31 October 2010):
 Pregnancy offers many, many changes in not only a woman's body but her mind. During pregnancy and after giving birth, there are still hormones that can affect your sex drive (among other things). I suggest you see your doctor about this. You might need medication to balance out the hormones in your body...But honey, forcing yourself to have sex is not the solution. Your partner can feel your reluctance and this can drive a wedge of resentment between you both since you'll feel pressured and he'll feel like you're faking sexual feelings for him. Read books on the aftermaths of pregnancy and I'm sure there are forums on the internet with women feeling as you are. Re-discover your sensuality/body, take long baths, light some candles and explore your body yourself. Watch a few sensual movies and recapture "that" feeling...your favorite and/or new steamy novels...Tell your husband you love him but you're more sexually tense after going through childbirth. He'll understand.Again, talk to your doctor about this. xx
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