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writes:Hello.Im 15, and turning 16 soon.And my deepest darkest confession is,I've never been kissed.What i can understand is, why no guy makes their move?I mean, I'm smart, pretty, funny..Jeesh, what do you want? A barbie doll?I'm obsessed [not really, more like, in love] with this one guy, and he doesnt know who i am. Grr. That makes me mad. and and I get this advice alot: BE YOURSELF. Yeah, well, I am being myself, and nothing is happening.It seems that no one like "myself"Beleive me, I've tried.I've tried to not be myself, be a copy of someone else, and be myself.Confusing? I know.It's just not fair that all the girls i know have 1000 bfs and I havent even had one!Sorry, that was kinda venting.
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reader, starfairy  +, writes (4 November 2007):
 Forget all the other girls, who's doing what, who's had X amount of boyfriend's, we're all individual. I was a late bloomer in this stuff too, so I do know how you feel!
Basically, you need to concentrate on getting this guy to notice you, take note of his circle of friends, the places he might go, his interests, you need to go out there and get what you want! You might have mutual friends, you could make it a mission to happen to be at some of the same places or events as him, talk to him! Find out his interests so you know what to discuss with him. And like everyone else has said to you, be yourself. It's an awful lot of work trying to keep up the act of pretending to be someone else.
Good luck :o)
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reader, Asexy +, writes (4 November 2007):
 The best advice for how to get a boyfriend is to stop looking for one. When you're desperate, you'll come across as needy, and that's NOT attractive. Guys can smell neediness a mile away, and they'll run, believe me.
Self-confidence is REALLY sexy. It's when you DON'T need a guy that they want you. When you're comfortable in your own skin, the guys will be all over you, I promise.
So in the mean time, stop looking for a boyfriend. Start doing things that you really like to do (bonus points if they involve lots of other people, so you can meet them while you're doing something you enjoy). Join a sport, a club, take a class, anything.
Good luck.
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reader, kenny + ♥, writes (4 November 2007):
 I think in this day and age it does not look to out of place for girls to make moves on guys, as it did years ago. If you really like this guy and he does not know who you are, well he is only ever going to know you are by you going up and talking to him. I don't mean ask him out, but maybe make a friend of him, talk to him, let him know who you are. Over time you could build up a nice bond with this guy, and who knows he may even ask you out. As for all your mates having boyfriends, well i can tell you now that your time will surely come, probably when you least expect it.
Good luck x
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 November 2007): I have a male friend whos 24 and still not had a kiss. Its not that hes not attractive, he is ok and is intelligent and kind. The thing is i think he comes across very desperate. My advice would be to make yourself look nice, be confident and just be patient. If you act like your not interested usually offers will follow. Im not particularly good looking but i always have men after me cant understand why and this friend doesnt know how i do it. wen im out i get hounded lol. I always believe eye contact is the way to go. I know my looking at a fellas eyes whether he fancys me or not most of the time. You talk about this friend u like. Ive just realised a mate i fancied felt the same for me, thing is we cant be together due to external influences. If this friend is close, id maybe leave it, sometimes love aint worth losin a friend over and u cantg go back 2 being friends, u will always have feelings for eachother
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