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anonymous
writes:I am incredibly shy and I am not a cougar. I had a crush on a Hot guy who rides my bus occasionally. I am way past the age when I should have a crush. Plus he is young, way younger than me. Yes, I know, I am clueless about men for a woman my age. Just shoot me! He sat across from me one afternoon and I got a good look at him. He noticed me looking at him that day and his demeanor changed. The next few weeks he changed seats to catch my eye. I was freaked out and avoided eye contact. He never talked to me, but stood in front of me on a couple of occasions, which is unusual behavior. He got off the bus and I looked at him and he looked right at me. What is up with that? I fell right in front of him. He reached out to me, but didn't say anything. Why wouldn't he say something to me? Before you say I should say something to him, Oh hell no! I made that mistake twice and won't ever do that again. The man caught me staring at him more than once. That should be enough of a hint to talk to me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 November 2010): Men get shy too you know!
There's only one way to solve this situation - you have to take the initiative and talk to him!
I'm not saying you need to give him your number or anything - just make a harmless comment about the weather, or how crowded the bus is. smile. Make a joke. See how he responds.
If he makes an awkward mumbly reply and runs off as quickly as possible you can assume he's not interested (but at least you tried and won't have to spend your life wondering what could've been). If he responds and continues the conversation then you could be in there given a few days - and even if not, you've at least made a friend.
Go on! Give it a go!!
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (28 November 2010):
 Maybe he doesnt want to talk to you, maybe he was just having a bit of fun seeing how far he could go, he might have a girlfriend or even be gay.
You've tried everything to open up communication, the eye contact, the speaking first, you even fell in front of him with no result.
I think time to let it drop, if he is way younger than you maybe he sees you as the cougar you claim not to be.
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