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writes:Okay, I feel so lame writing this but I need some sort of advice.I have known this girl for 2 years and we hit it off straight away. She is my best friend. She is smart, witty, funny, intelligent and absolutely stunning.We do everything together. We go out for meals. We go out for a drink. We go for walks. We go away for the weekend together. We sit in with each other cuddling on the cold nights. We even sleep in the same bed. You name it. Everything that 'couples' do. But we're not!I told her how I felt about her about a year ago, and she told me she was still getting over her ex, wasn't ready and just wanted to be friends, because I was her best male friend. And I accepted that. We drifted apart because my male pride was hurt. (I won't lie.) And even then that was only for a couple of weeks. Now we're closer than ever if that's possible? The past couple of times we've been out I've caught her looking at me in that way. But is it just in my head? When we're together she gives me her undivided attention. I watch guys drool over her, but all she see's is me. When we're close she looks at me like she wants me to kiss her. Even today when I dropped her off we cuddled, but then there was that pause like she was waiting. But again is it just in my head. 'We have' kissed but we were drunk so that to me doesn't count.Last night we were out and it was just amazing and I guess that's why I'm writing this.She text me today saying that I was everything she wanted in a guy, but she finished the text with, and I quote "Love having you as a friend, and couldn't be without you". And that's the thing she's always telling me I'm here best friend. She tells me how amazing I am. But your my best friend.We've never fought or argued, even had a disagreement because we are totally on the same wave length. Is she scared if we move to the next step and it doesn't work out we'll lose that friendship? I know that literally every guy she has been out with her has cheated on her too and that really annoys me. I would never ever do that to her. We've dated poeple but it's never come to anything. And it's hurt when she has but it's never lasted long. I've met her family and her friends and they've told her, and in front of me how great a guy I am. And I've told them in front of her how I feel about her but she just wants to be friends.So over to you guys what do I do. I know I'm in love with her. Do I just tell her I can't do this anymore. Or just keep her as a best friend and try and find someone else?Please help!
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 November 2010): i think you answered your own question bud.
she's scared that youll loose your friend ship. she may even be scared that she will make the same mistakes she made in her last realationship. Mabey you should talk to her about this. alone where its private. and if she really wants to be friends deep down. then im sorry.
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