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writes:I have been dating a woman for over a year, she is a mom of three. Her kids are 17, 20, 25. In the beginning, she would show affection in public, in the car, anywhere with no mind to anyone, thing etc. We even got busy outside her oldest daughters place. We live two hours away and shes afraid about affection in public there because someone will see us and it will get back to my son, because he knows people. Even in my town now shes worried now that it will get back. Her kids know me and like me and know the whole story. She is a 42 year old woman build on feelings not logic whats up? Reply to this Question
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reader, softtouchmale2003 +, writes (7 September 2009):
 It seems like she feels ashamed of being affectionate and intimate with you in public. Its a problem that you two can address calmly. Maybe if she felt a little more confident in herself, things would change. The age difference may be a problem for her at the moment.
It could be other factors. Try and be understanding. She's setting a boundary for you to respect, and while you do that, you can ask her if there's anything you can do to assure her that little displays of affection are meant for her with your love, not to embarrass her.
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (7 September 2009):
 Or, she's turning you down?
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reader, califnan +, writes (7 September 2009):
 If your affection for one another is fulfilled or satisfied in an intimate setting - I would think that holding hands should be sufficient while out in public ..
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reader, bitterblue  +, writes (7 September 2009):
 I am suddenly reminded of this mature and attractive lady who won't date because "how would it look? The mother is dating while the daughter/son has no one?" - so you see, the reasons could be many, maybe she simply disagrees with PDA or she fears your son's reaction until he gets to know him better? What is important is that you are comfortable in each other's company when you are all alone, as for this "detail", I'm sure you will feel more at ease about this when she explains it to you, so you can understand her better. As Gina so rightfully says, not every woman will be up for this, times have changed and some folks are more conservative, but I'm sure you can make up for this in other ways. Best wishes.
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