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*helsieSue
writes:when i have sex, it doesnt feeel as good as its described. for some reason, it feeels goood but in a way, hurts. i've done it with only one guy and i lost it this month. why doesnt it feeel like people say? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 January 2010): Your vagina hasn't been worked in to fit his size yet...
Have sex more providing that you are always safe and perhaps a birth control method if necessary. :)
Have fun :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 January 2010): Its because it was ur 1st time.the 1st time always hurts the worst.
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reader, ebecode  +, writes (28 January 2010):
 Don't you think you ar still young for this act?anyway,i thing u could handle it.next time try to relax your nerves and enjoy sex to the fullest.cheers
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reader, Lexie88  +, writes (28 January 2010):
 I agree with MissKin...you're too young!
It will hurt the first few times. I also think that being inexperienced, and I also assume you were with an inexperienced guy, has a lot to do with it. Additionally, if you're not emotionally ready for it, you may be unable to relax and that's why it hurts.
But if this was your first time then it's normal that it hurt, especially at your age.
I'm not trying to criticize you but why are you having sex at such a young age? Maybe you're mature enough to make these decisions but I really think that mentally, you're just too young.
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reader, Faraday  +, writes (28 January 2010):
 Sex isn't, or at least shouldn't be, a mechanical process. If you want to enjoy it, it ought to start in the mind, your biggest sex organ.
You need to be with someone who values you for you and not just the sex, who respects you in and out of the bedroom and wants to pleasure you more than anything.
YOUR needs ought to be paramount and he ought to make sure you are satisfid before he even thinks about himself.
A nice long, slow build up with plenty of foreplay; maybe giving you several orgasms before penetration and most important of all - afterplay. Hugging you afterwards to show you that you are loved as you relax down in his arms.....
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reader, planetanarchy +, writes (28 January 2010):
Well, there are lot of complicated things that go on for women when they have sex. For one, with your age, there is a good chance you may be sneaking around or fitting sex in when you can see your boyfriend, rather than older adults who have their own places are more relaxed, who are dating, women get more naturally and gradually aroused, which prepares your vagina for sex, by lubricating, lenthening etc. As you also build more associations and develop more experience, you may find out what parts about sex you like and don't like. Most women also only orgasm through clitoral stimlation, (which also dulls some pain) and this is something that really, only masturbating and exploring your own body will help you with. Like the previous poster said you are still young and lack experience. Are you talking to your parents about sex? Do they know what is going on? Is it safe to talk to your mom about these things? Are you communicating to your bf what feels good and what hurts? IF he doesnt respect that or just plain sucks with communicating with you and pleasuring you, making you feel safe or good, then he and or you may not be ready for it, or you may want to have another boyfriend in the future. Try masturbating when you can and feel comfortable and and explore yourself, that may help youimmensley.I will not judge like the previous poster about your age, because 15 is not that young to be sexually exploring, the problem is that kids go into it really fast and dangerously without protection and guidance because parents don't accept it as a fact of life, and it's hard for them to lose some control over your body, but you must STILL respect their rules and feelings and be honest and held accountable.
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reader, MissKin +, writes (28 January 2010):
 It doesn't feel good because ur young and inexperienced and aren't even old enough to be doing it. And it will hurt, especially at your age and it'll take longer for it to feel good. And you've only done it once, sometimes it takes longer than that.
You shouldn't always believe what people say.
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