A
male
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:HiI've been with my boyfriend now for 6 years and we are engaged to be married. We have lived together for 5 years and get on well with little problems. The only major problem for me is he doesn't seem to be interested in having sex with me anymore. I have a fairly high sex drive and would like some kind of sexual contact daily but would settle for a few times a week, but at the moment we have it once a week if I'm lucky and sometimes it can be once a fortnight or once a month. Whenever I try and make a move he's always tired, feeling sick, busy or the line 'we will have it later'. I do believe he loves me, but the way it is starting to feel is that we are just friends who sleep in the same bed. I've explained many times how I feel and he insists he is still interested in me and then makes a move on me, but I don't want pity sex.Also, recently a lad I used to work with starting flirting with me and invited me over for a drink. I realise this was wrong, but it felt nice for someone to actually say I was good looking and had a nice body etc. He tried it on with me, but I resisted because deep down the only person I want to fancy me is my boyfriend. I'm just so confused becuase my boyfriend is the nicest man I've ever met but i don't want to live like this as potentially I could be wasting my best years??Any advice would be most appreciated
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reader, BMWS +, writes (5 April 2012):
In my experience, the only time I went of sex with my GF is when I stopped fancying her..when I started to have feelings or sex with someone else. I am not saying that that is the underlying reason in your bf case, but you should be very worried if your partner suddenly goes of intimacy with you. Sex is a primeval need..like hunger..we don't go off food on a whim..it means we are sick and that needs serious attention. Do you suspect he may be having an affair? Check the signs carefully, there are lots of resources on here to clue you up and good luck.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (4 April 2012):
 It could be many things that is causing this. He might be stressed with work and just run down and tired. You both need to start adding a bit of spice back in to your relationship. Tell him again your worries and fears and see if there is anything that you can both work on. Maybe try new things out sexually and add some romance back in to the relationship.
Don't beat yourself up about going to visit this other man because you done nothing wrong, you never cheated on your boyfriend you where loyal so look at it as a good thing. We as humans all want attention so its only natural you felt the way that you did. But he needs to know how much this is upsetting you and try and resolve it together as a team.
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