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male
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:I’m having trouble with this kid.It all started when I was looking for a part time job. I’m a college student and I’m living in an apartment with my room-mates. As I was good in maths I decided to teach maths at high school to the ninth graders. A few weeks ago one student said she had some problems with algebra and asked if I could tutor her at her place. And, I was like sure.So, there I was at her place helping her out with her math problems and out of nowhere she brushed my hair behind my ear with her hand and said I was the most amazing person she had ever met. That sure did struck me with lightening but I brought her back to earth and made her realize we were here to solve her math problems.So, for the next several days I tutored her and everyday she would make a move that I wouldn’t take so seriously. But, I had enough of her when she gave me a kiss on the cheek. That would be the last day of our math work. I told her that she no longer required any of my assistance in her algebra problems. But, that didn’t stop her. She would call me several times on my cell but I wouldn’t take the call. Yeah, I started avoiding her. But, I couldn’t while in class.One day she confronted me after class and with a long face apologized for behaving inappropriately. She wanted to let me know she didn’t mean to freak me out and she did all that stuff because she believes I like her too since I didn’t do anything when she tucked my hair behind my ear. I wasn’t really enjoying hearing all this and I was glad these words came out while the class was empty.I told her I don’t feel that way about her. She didn’t take it. She thought I was too scared to admit that I like her. This conversation couldn’t get any better, I thought that day. She promised that I won’t get into any sort of trouble and wanted me to just say it. She was and still is so convinced that I like her.What am I suppose to do in this kind of situation?[Mod note: the question was posted from Pakistan.]
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (4 April 2012):
 What the others said.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (4 April 2012):
 1. NEVER be alone with this kid. Always have an ADULT witness
2. Tell her that you will have to go to her parents or school officials with her inappropriate behavior if she does not stop.
she is way out of line
always always always remain arms distant from this kid... she is over the op
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (4 April 2012):
 I would go talk to the school counselor at her school. It need to be nipped in the bud and she isn't going to be the one doing it.
She isn't just a flirt she is aggressive in her behavior towards you and honestly, I find that worrisome, because that kind of personality is not unlikely to try and get "even" because you snubbed her. So protect yourself.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 April 2012): "What am I suppose to do in this kind of situation?"
Nothing, nothing at all. Just keep nicely brushing her off and don't tutor her anymore. Don't be alone with her either and if there is a chance of that keep a good physical distance.
It happens OP, and if teaching is something you want to get into then must learn to accept this kind of thing.
I would tell one of the teachers though, you should have done that straight away and sought advice. You see there is a chance she may turn from nice to extremely nasty from your rejection and it wouldn't be beyond her capabilities to tell the teachers you came on to her. So be nice, don't respond to her advances but don't outright coldly reject her. Just stay away from her and let the school authorities know.
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