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writes:My parents are asking too much of me, they took away my internet upstairs after many long years of having my own laptop in my own room, they take away my ATM card (I earn enough money to buy stuff they normally wouldn't.) They take away everything I have. And make me sit downstairs until bed time. (10PM) It's school holidays and I've been on my computer most of the time, except when I saw some friends, went up a state, and worked. I was so stressed from school, but I still managed to get all A's.Dad keeps complaining, that I'm addicted, when I'm not. The computer is my escape, my sanctuary. Not to mention the only way to use the net is now a cable downstairs next to the sofa. I'm sick of being treated like a child. I want to be treated with respect and trust, but every time I try they don't give into it, and simply think I'm still a child. I've always had a good thing with my parents, my Mom I've been able to talk to her about anything, and my dad some things.I know they've been through the same things as me, but still I feel like they're being unfair.Please, tell me how to let them know, I'm not a child but rather growing up. I'm 16 years old, in Australia, and by law we're allowed to have sex, and move out as long as we can provide for ourselves. I've no love interests at school, and straight A's. Please tell me why they're worried, or what I'm doing wrong.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (8 October 2010):
 I don't know if this is your case , but- just a guess :
maybe your parents fear that Internet is taking over your life.
Some kids really get attached to their On -line activities , and end up spending 3, 6, 9 hours a day on line. From a parent's point of view, that's disquieting and negative. Not only because of the potential dangers of coming in touch with the wrong people. But also because they want their kids to have a real life with real friends and real human relationships, not just virtual ones.
Then, how can Internet be one's only source of entertainment amusement and comfort ?? I like it too , otherwise I would not be here on DC , but- particularly at your age - there is more to life .
What about reading books, playing sports, learning an instrument ? Visiting a museum, dancing, cooking,painting,whatever.
Your computer is "your escape,your sanctuary " and I bet they are precisely worried about you thinking that ! PCs and Internet are just a TOOL ,not a surrogate for real life !
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 October 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI have asked, I tried talking calmly, but when they didn't give me straight answers after the first lot, I got rather agitated, and was like "If you're going to insist on taking everything away from my comfort zonne at home, then why can't I have a simple answer to my question?"
Then, I gave up and just got on with life, even tried discussing the possibility of going to before with some exceptions, but no dice.
I have been seeing some friends lately, but lets face it most girls in High Schools are in fact bitches, and I don't like getting into those petty arguments about "A boy". I don't even care about, but am friends with. I haven't had the best times at school, I hang around guys because lets face this aswell, they're simpler than girls with a nasty side.
I would assume, the way I'm going would be a prize to other parents, but not mine.
Thanks anyways. (:
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reader, Fatherly Advice  +, writes (5 October 2010):
 Actually my question is the same as yours, what did you do lose their trust? With straight A's and no boyfriend you sound pretty safe to me. So I think the loss of trust has to do with outside factors. Your parents have probably been hearing a lot of the same things that I am hearing. That young people are using social networks as a substitute for real relationships. As a result they don't get the interpersonal skills that they need to have a successful life.
I see you are working on your HSC and getting great grades. That alone won't make you successful in life. You need a set of skills that you get from working with and being with other people. Your parents are worried that you are getting the wrong skills. Your job is probably doing a lot in that area.
Feeling the way you do is pretty common at your age. Talk to your parents more find out where they are getting scared from. Then go along with the new rules they put them there for your safety, because they do love you.
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