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writes:Hi so i'm 20 years old still a virgin and never been kissed.i mean i've had boyfriends but never felt comfortable in kissing them i just want that perfect one so i am waiting for the right one i guess.but my problem is my dad, i still live at home but my dad does give me alot of freedom and stuff which is cool he knows i am senseible but when ever he and his partner go away or anything and if i have a party (he doesn't mind i have parties) he always says no boys allowed to stay.and i'm never allowed to stay at a guys house EVEN if they are just friends or my friends boyfrieends and my friends staying as well and stuff.but my sister whom is 22 she is allowed to stay at guys houses and they stay here and my dad knows and doesn't tell her she can't have them stay!why does he treat me like that?does he not trust me?some advice would be really great.thank you all in advance
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 April 2009): Your 20.Its really not his decision what you get up to.But it is..if its in his house.Your now an adult. And he doesnt have the right to say 'No you cant have sex'I think its obvious that your dad doesnt trust the boys.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 April 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you all for your help... and medical guy, I've not moved out because I don't have the money to get a place ya know. I don't earn that much, but thanks all for your help. :)
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reader, sweetest_sin  +, writes (18 April 2009):
 I believe trust is out of the question, my dear.
Your Dad trusts you, he just does not trust the boys.
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reader, ArmyMedic +, writes (18 April 2009):
 This is one of those Dad things I'm guessing you are youngest child, so just you and your sister?
She may only be 2 years older than you but you are going to be Daddy's little girl, I think you need to point out that you are over 18 and you are legally an adult, and you do respect him etc, etc. But you need to be able to have a social life.
More to the point why are you still living with your parents? If you had your own place you wouldn't have to worry about the whole "my house, my rules" and "while you are living under my roof"
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 April 2009): I can't say why he treats you differently to your sister, but looking at this from a father's point of view it's not a question of trust, it's more a case of him being protective towards you, especially as you're the youngest.
The thing is, you'll always be his little girl no matter how old you are and he's probably having a hard time of it trying to come to terms with the fact that when you meet the man of your dreams he'll no longer be the most important man in your life. He'll have to let go of you in that respect sooner or later, and he knows it, but it's difficult for him to accept it or to let you have total freedom just at the moment.
He'll eventually cut you all the slack you need, but in the meantime try to look at the situation through his eyes and try to understand why he treats you the way he does.
Trust me, he has your best interests at heart and he loves you dearly otherwise he wouldn't give a damn what you do or who you are with or where you spend the night or with whom.
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