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writes:I've been with my boyfriend for 6 months and we have a great relationship. We get on brilliantly, the only problem is I have yet to meet his parents (he didn't tell them we were going out until 4 months into the relationship, and it was his friend that told them not him). He has met my family and they love him. I get the feeling that he is scared to introduce me to his parents. I've told him about my concerns and he says he will introduce me, but I'm still waiting.Is it wrong that I am wanting to push this, should I just leave it and let him do it in his own time? It just makes me feel insecure at this stage.*(he is the baby of the family (24 years old) and I am his first girlfriend)*
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reader, Makayla5893  +, writes (4 October 2014):
Meeting the family is a pretty big step in a relationship, and although he may be comfortable hanging out with your folk, he obviously feels differently about his family.. He could be ashamed or embarrassed of his family- maybe he doesn't have a great relationship with them. Whatever the reason, give it some time and take the pressure off.. The bigger deal it's made out to be, the more he'll stress and the less likely it is to happen. I'm sure he loves you but needs a bit more time to get his head around the idea. All the best :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 October 2014): You really should be concerned because if a man truly love you the is no need for him be told to introduce his beloved. You don't have to push him because that might irritate him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 October 2014): I think he is reluctant for the family to meet you because of something on their part. I am guessing they are either very religious, strict, nosy or critical of his choices.
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reader, YouWish  +, writes (3 October 2014):
 Yeah, it *is* about time you met them at 6 months, especially if they live locally, and it could mean anything, though his not TELLING them about you is interesting as well. You are his first girlfriend, and he is 24?? What has he told you about them???
I'm inclined to think that he isn't hesitant to introduce you because of you. Given that he hasn't had a relationship until he turned 24 and he's the baby of the family makes me think that it's because of them, not you. I wonder if they're controlling or hovering and he was sheltered. He may be wanting his own life and space, and you represent a freedom that he feels will be threatened by introducing you to them.
Are they religious?? You're his first girlfriend, but was he a player or womanizer beforehand? Something tells me that he wasn't. He may be resisting them in his life. I know that some parents start putting pressure on their kids if they are with someone who doesn't share the same religious views (i.e. Muslim, born-again Christian). He may not want them speaking ill of you because of pre-ordained family stuff too.
Of course, I don't have all of the facts, but that's the initial vibe I get based on the fact that you're his first, and he's pretty old to have a "first".
None of that matters, of course. If you two are sexual, you should be able to tell him "I'd like to meet your family" if you're talking about the future. Someone's family IS a consideration as much as we don't like to admit it.
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