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writes: okay i'm giving up on this guy. We've been together for about 3 weeks now and we were closed to having sex. I would love to have sex with him but when I asked him about being boyfriend and girlfriend he said yeah,someday, I hope. I can't get turned on anymore when we hook up cuz I feel like he's just using me because it sounds to me that he's ready to hook up but he's not ready to commit and that's just such a big turn off. He's reminding of my ex bf. My ex bf did the same thing to me. He would wanna hook up with me ALL the time but not commit. I'm afraid that the same thing is happening right now. This new guy says he's not ready for a relationship soon because he just broke up with his gf of a year three months ago. Should I tell him that whenever he's over his ex he should call me???
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reader, b3x  +, writes (2 November 2006):
 I think you should play hard to get for a while. I kinda get the same impression as you and agree when you feel that he may be using you slightly.
I think you must understand though from his point of view, 3 weeks is not really a long time, so maybe he just feels that he desn't know you yet? I wouldn't end it with him straight away, but just keep it cool with him for a while.
See if he chases you, if he does then he may want to get to know you more, if not then maybe your right and he only wants a bit of passion or that he may be not over his ex.
Whatever you do though babe, don't sleep with him, your gut instinct is that he has values just like your ex, so don't get yourself in that situation, no matter how hard it is! Stick to you gut instinct, I always do and find out that I am usually right about someone!
Keep yourself safe, play the cool for a while, let him chase you. He may just want to get to know you more, but wait and see! xx
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