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writes:Hey all. So I'm not sure if this guy in my class likes me or if he does this with every girl... But he's 25 and he's a little quiet/shy. Around his friends he isn't (I know this because I'm really good friends with his good friend). So ever since I met him, I always caught him looking at me during class. And I don't know if it's just me, but when I'm talking to another guy and he passes along, he kind of stares down the other guy. Also, his friend told me he made out with some girl at a bar and then he told his friend to email me and tell me it wasn't true. (I still don't know what happened). When I'm talking to him, he doesn't make eye contact. And of course, I'm usually the one starting the convo. Our mutual friend wanted me to go out with him saying he was a nice guy... Sometimes I feel like they talk about me and our mutual friend is trying to help him out.. OR sometimes I feel like our mutual friend is doing this for his own entertainment. Anyway, besides all this and the fact that I have this 6th sense feeling that he is at some degree at least interested... well why doesn't he make a move? Or at least try to be friends with me with the whole 'let's hang out' scene? I just don't get it. Help me see the light! Reply to this Question
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reader, Not My Name  +, writes (17 March 2010):
 You answered yourself in your post - "he's a little quiet/shy". If he is interested and not making a move there is the anwer in a nut shell.
I feel sorry for guys that many women expect them to make the first move disregarding (in the expectation/ questioning)that they may have confidence issues, fear of rejection, ..all that stuff going on too.
So why is it that you are not making the first move yourself? Perhaps feeling the same things?
I kicked my butt for years about letting a guy get away when the attraction was so stroong and obvious but both of us were pussy's and did not act on it,. That sucked, never again, so since then I just trust my instincts, think to hell with it, pounce em first if I think they are stalling,... and never read it wrong or got a knockback.
Go for it!
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reader, pinktopaz +, writes (17 March 2010):
As much as guys try to portray themselves as macho and whatnot, they're really afraid to ask girls out most of the time. I think usually you know if a guy is interested, so if you feel he is but is afraid, then ask him out or something. He may be more nervous or more afraid of rejection because of the interation between you and his friend, so it makes it more awkward. And who cares about some girl at a bar, people drink and get liquid courage, big deal.
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reader, Kenj  +, writes (17 March 2010):
 I think the mutual friend is trying to set you two up together. The bar incident, you dont really know if this guy asked the friend to email you or if the friend has just done it to keep things smooth.The other guy could have feelings for you, but really there is only one way to find that out and thats to ask him out on a date. He might want to ask you but is lacking in self confidence to do it. I think the mutual friend will be pushing him too to ask you.But generally trust your instinct, it will be 99.9% right.
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