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writes: I'm 3 months into the age of 15 years and I've had a boyfriend since August but we broke up in January. He's 17 and I've known him since June 2009, if you're wondering. Ever since the week after we first broke up, we immediately began talking again, more on a friend level than anything. With occasional flirting and emotional break downs from stress (family, missing each other, etc, you know, teenager stuff) we have been talking to each other all the time. For the past 2 weeks, we lost contact and than once we finally started talking again (this Saturday) I told him I really missed him a lot. We are both people of music so every time we spoke, "our song" would pop up and we would get feelings for each other like a kick in the head. So he began to send major flirting out there and it kinda caught me off guard, he isn't much of a flirty person. SO I invited him over Saturday night knowing what I had in mind. To make a long story short, he ended up taking my virginity. It was everything I could have wanted, he was gentle, considerate and very caring for the whole thing. Unlike most guys I know they just pop it in, pull it out and leave. But he stayed he took his time with me, he tried his best to make it the best. It really worked. He told me how much he loved me and that I was beautiful and amazing and that I was honestly one of the most important people in his life. Most of the girls I know, feel like they wasted their virginity but I don't at all. I Felt like even if he were to hurt me again, either way I'd still be happy that he was the one to do this with me. I wouldn't take this back for anything in the world. I still can't believe how beautiful it was. Now, two thirds of my friends are upset for letting this happen. They were the ones I went to whenever me and him had problems and they all refuse to see the light on this boy. I truly love him a lot and I just want them to be happy for me. I want them to understand because I see me and him going really far. How do I get my friends to understand that he is the way he is and they should accept him because I do? Please help. This means a whole bunch to me, I would really appreciate it.
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reader, Kimberleym  +, writes (17 March 2010):
Sounds like you have some problems with these girls that need to be worked out. You said most of your friends lost their virginity already, so what gives them credit for being upset that you had sex with someone you love? I lost mine to a friend - someone I wouldn't even think twice about talking to today, however if I think back I do have friends who dated a boy had sex with him and even if they broke up (which some still haven't) they don't regret it, because at the time it was everything they wanted. Your friends shouldn't be thinking 'how could THEY let this happen' because all that matters is what YOU think. You control your life and don't let anyone else. Also, your friends need to realize that you're young, people make mistakes, its part of growing. Highschool is a hard time, for some people the hardest, the biggest thing is to pick your battles, boys will make stupid mistakes, so will girls. Your friends cannot assume that he is a bad person simply because you've fought, and if he is - that's up to no one but yourself to decide. Point of the response - if they're good friends, they'll understand. It's not as though you can go back and change it now - even if you wanted to , so they may as well accept it and support your decision because what you need is a friend now, not someone turning against you. Hold your head up and stay strong, it seems like you made a decision you feel strongly about so don't let anyone tell you you've done wrong girl.
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