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anonymous
writes:Ok here goes. My boyfriend and I have been dating for 2 months now going onto 3. There is one problem: when we have sex he closes his eyes, turns his head away, and bearly makes a sound besides breathing and a rare grunt or gasp. He's a really nice guy and (believe it or not) still holds the door open for me even after 2 months. he is from china and does not speak a lot of English and to be fair my mandarin sucks so it is hard to communicate sometimes. He is only going to be staying in America for one or two more years though so I was wondering if that was a way he was distancing himself from me or if I'm just being paranoid. Is it because he is asian or do all guys do this? My last 2 boyfriends did not do this so did i just get lucky with them?The sex is great and he does do a lot of differebt things to try and please me. I really like him but at the same time it makes me feel a little insecure and that he might just be using me... Anyone have any suggestions?
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 May 2011): Looking at someone in the eyes during sex is very "bold" ... There are still a lot of people who have shame associated with sex , or are more shy about it. It's not about you.
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reader, drew22 +, writes (26 May 2011):
 Surprised only females answered this question. The reason as to why he's closing his eyes and turning his head is because he is trying to put his mind else where and to think about something else other than sex. why? because for some (or most) guys when you think about something else, you tend to last longer than usual. This would also cause him to go at a slow or moderate pace if im correct. By the way if he kept his eyes open and looked at you constantly, it would make him more excited then he would "release" quicker than lightning (lol)
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 May 2011): Generally, Asian culture views eye contact as disrespectful no matter the situation.
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reader, a-g55  +, writes (25 May 2011):
 In my honest opinion I would say this means he is trying to imagine he is having sex with someone he finds more attractive. I do it when i am with someone not so attractive!
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reader, Smileypants +, writes (25 May 2011):
 My guy does that a lot, and we've been together over a year. I think ot's when he's concentrating on not pulling the trigger to fast lolDon't worry sweety, just enjoy your new relationship :o)
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 May 2011): Do you have good oral hygiene? Do you brush your teeth and tongue and floss regularly? If you don't, you don't know, or if you eat lots of strong smelling foods or smoke cigarettes, you may unfortunately have foul smelling breath. Which can make a partner close their eyes and turn away while making love just to escape the odor.
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reader, Dear Mandy +, writes (25 May 2011):
 Hi
no I dont think his using you hun. quite a few men look away, and many men dont make noises when making love. Maybe he is shy to look you in the face, some guys get emmbarrassed by what their facial expression are like. Also when making sounds he could be feeling like you may find it silly or not manly for you. Have you spoke to him about this? Also you say he will be moving back after a year or two, but he may very well want to stay with you, or ask you to move with him, it's still very early day's. Another reason why his a little shy when it comes to be open in the bedroom because it's still such a new relationship. If everything else is ok, then just go with the flow hun
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 May 2011): Have you talked to him? It sounds to me like he is trying to concentrate. Everyone is differently sexually; I have to concentrate really hard to orgasm and I think of different fantasies that turn me on. Some involve my bf some don't. I've been with men who find it hard to reach orgasm and ones that come in seconds while they gaze in to their eyes. It's not nice when you're with a guy and he does this but it is quite common. I really dont think he is using you, i think he is just concentrating. Believe it or not, men are not machines and many men are so used to masturbation and porn that when a real girl comes along they struggle. But try not to worry about this too much, it's not abnormal.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 May 2011): Well he may have a penis problem or something or maybe he thinks it is awkward to look?
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