A
female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:Is he interested or is he just bored? We hadn't talked for about a month or two when he randomly said hi. He asked me how my love life was and I've always been an open book. One of the reasons we started to end was because I'm the jealous type and he says it's a nasty trait but I couldn't help but get jealous vibes from him. I have a bunch of friends online and only he was the guy I opened up to and told him the real me. So, when we stopped talking randomly I found someone else and opened to him. I told him that and he told me that he was an honourable man then and asked me if I had told the other guy about him. So then he told me that one of the reasons he stopped talking to me was because I'm eight years younger than him, he knows the other guy is 33. Then he started telling me that he was starting to be interested in a serious relationship. I then told him that that was one of the reasons I stopped liking him, because he didn't see me in a serious way. And he told me that he wasn't thinking about a serious relationship right away. And told me that I'm at an age where I'll be sleeping around and exploring sex while he has gotten to a more stable age. Which is wrong because I don't think about sleeping around and use guys for sexual experience. He told me that wasn't what he meant. So then after that he didn't message me at all and didn't respond to my messages. Then today I talked in his chat group with another account I've had for a week. He had invited me to the room two days after the werid sleeping around conv. He was apparently appearing offline and popped in on my conversation and kept asking me who I was and who I was to which for my personal thrill I didn't say but he figured me out for he said my name letting me know he knew. Then I went away but lurked and some girl started posting naughty pics. He started saying she was so hot and that she must get a bunch of pms. There was a guy who didn't believe it was her and he said he did and she said that of course he does because she showed him her lady parts with a newspaper on her side. He didn't say anything back and the room died after her trashy comment and pictures. Then time passed and someone else talked in the ^room with him. It was all a greeting until she said that she missed talking to him. He said nothing back back and then a guy told her not to miss that C***. I was told by a friend of his that he portrays a player but he's not. Why did he randomly say hi and invite me to his room? Couldn't he leave me alone as I was? Why'd he tell me I'd be sleeping around and that - oh please help me understand!
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reader, Tisha-1  +, writes (3 December 2010):
 Sweetheart. Close down the computer now and step away from it into real life. Go outside and get the sunshine, or rain, or wind, or the moon's glow on your face. Take a brisk walk and get your heart pumping just a little bit. Then go eat a nice meal, finish with some delicious dark chocolate. Sit and practice just being with yourself. Observe your breath and the way it touches your nostrils and fills your lungs. Breathe in and breathe out.
Resolve to leave the chatrooms for a month and see what's happening locally in your town. What free, live music performances are happening? What kind of artwork is going in somewhere?
Why waste time trying to figure out some loser out there in cyberland? It's a waste of energy, a waste of time, and there's nothing that will change when you do figure him out. It's not worth it.
Take care of yourself. I know you can do better than this, okay?
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