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writes:ok , here it is i've been with my bf for like 11 month now , but last week he left me his laptop since we had a project to finish together he was so dumb to leave his laptop while he knows whats on it, so out of curiosity i checked his chat logs to find out that he talks badly about me behind my back with girls whom i know and others i never even know , from about 3 weeks we took a break because he felt that i was a burden and then we returned after that with like 6 or 7 days but it was an agreement from both our sides , but apparently thats not what he told those friends of his what he said was that i begged him to try one more time to stay together and that i would stop being a burden and that i'll let him live his life the way he wants it ..etc , he also said that he returned to me after that break out of sympathy bec. i cried and he couldnt stand hurting me that way but he doesnt have anymore feelings for me , but i dont understand it's like with me he's a different person he keeps telling me how much he loves me and cant imagine his life without me , when i confronted him he couldnt explain himself but when i told him i'd better leave he almost cried and he's been trying to call for the past few days , yea and one more thing i read in one conversation that he had a dream about a friend of ours and he felt some feelings for her thats why he made up the whole burden thing to get rid of her , another time he said that he wants me plus all the other stuff that he does !! the situation is really confusing and i dont know if i should give him a chance or dumb him , cause on my side i never tried to hurt him once , please if someone can suggest anything!!sorry for the long story !!thank u
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 December 2010): There are two options here.
1: he really does just say he loves you out of pity.
2: he really does love you but is too embarrassed to say it to his friends.
Either way, he's an ass and you should dump him. the sooner the better.
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reader, lintmagnet  +, writes (3 December 2010):
He is not being honest with you. The longer you stay with him, the more hurt you will feel. Get angry! Feel your power! He has issues. You want a real man, don't you? Why settle for someone that screws with your head?
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reader, kellyO  +, writes (3 December 2010):
 Hi Anom,
The question you need to ask yourself is if you can stay with a guys who talks bad about you to his friend behind your back, you cant trust his intentions towards you or his faithfulness.
Is it worth it?
You seem a very nice person and I hope you find someone who treat you special.
Kelly
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reader, Jessypj +, writes (3 December 2010):
Dump him, please. My ex was constantly chatting to other girls on the Internet and bad mouthing me and it did my head in. He's not sorry for what he did, by leaving his laptop on he probably wanted you to see it and didn't have the balls to end it with you properly. Sorry, hope this helps x
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reader, caiityy +, writes (3 December 2010):
 break up with him! You can do better than that! He doesn't appreciate you, and humiliates you behind your back. Find someone who really loves you. Good luck :) x
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