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writes: I have been going out with my b/f for 7 months. In the beginning of the relationship we were all over each other, and although neither of us like talking on the phone, we talked often throughout the day. Then gradually the phone calls don't even exist now. I've been upset that he doesn't do anything for me. Example: he's never taken me out. I'm not the type to care about that; we did plenty of things to make up for it. He canceled on me on my b-day. I haven't talked to him, only infrequent texts a couple of days or so in 3 weeks.wWhat is going on?
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reader, Country Woman  +, writes (21 March 2006):
 Well like you say you seem to have moved on already and the fact that he has not contacted you speaks a thousand words.
I wish you every best wish with the new man that will come along and make you think whatever did I see in this guy. Just stay strong and enjoy life to the full. We have one crack at life and we have to treasure every second, even the rough ones sometimes. Best wishes for the future.
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reader, opellee +, writes (17 March 2006):
opellee is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for the advise; i considered writing a letter but i was horrified at the thought that someone else might read it. he ended up braking up with me in a text when the text before that said that he loved me, yeah :[ i know ill always care about him but this isnt someothing that just popped up, i haven't felt the same for awhile because of his avoiding me, i told him this and it still didnt seem to matter. being apart doesnt bother me as much at the idea that he could just tell me he loves me one minute and it be over the next. i told him i respected his decision and that was that.
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reader, Country Woman +, writes (16 March 2006):
So sorry it has been so long since your last message but had problems with computer. Unfortunately as he is not asking his phone or texts etc standing around outside his house does seem quite desperate even though you may not feel that way it may look like that. Write him a letter and as you know his address, hand deliver it through the letterbox, if he is not in, leave it at that. He is completely spineless and the fact that he has done this to you before and then sent you loads of texts to get back with you means to say he is always going to be someone who just picks you up and drop you when HE feels like it.You are worth more than that and always remember it. Get everything off your chest in a letter and then sit back and see if he has the guts to contact you. You are most definitely better off without him.Make sure you busy yourself though, like going to the gym or out with friends, don't be available to talk to him if he does decide to contact you. If he texts, leave it almost an hour to reply, don't jump on the text and reply immediately as it gives the wrong message. I doubt he will get in touch again but at least by writing him a letter you clear it out of your head and maybe you can go forward stronger and you know that he will be the one left thinking about the letter you wrote to him. Good luck.
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reader, opellee +, writes (19 February 2006):
opellee is verified as being by the original poster of the questionyeah i agree! thanks for answering my question! the only problem w/ breaking up with him is that he never answers any of my calls or texts. i cant find out where he is to go there and break up and he wont meet up with me to break up. i broke up with him before because i thought he was sending me the signals that he wanted to break-up. but after he kept sending me all these texts saying he wants to be with me etc,. i got back with him, but nothing changed. when he did answer me about the relationship he said that we are on a break until he decides about the relationship! since then he hasnt answered me about anything. it has been over a month since i have seen him or talked to him on the phone. ive had it, i want to break up but i don't want to do it on the phone or in a text. it just doesnt honor the relationship we once had. should i just wait at his house until he comes home??
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reader, shania +, writes (7 February 2006):
 This man is a total jerk! He never had the balls to tell you its over,and to cancel on your birthday was totally unacceptable.I would txt him back and say that you have died of boredom and that you have had a better offer and that he is dumped.....that way you will still have your pride intact....you are better off without him.
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reader, Country Woman +, writes (7 February 2006):
If your boyfriend has never taken you out unfortunately he does not want to admit that you are a couple, if the intimacy levels were there in the beginning but after only 7 months things have cooled to this level then cut and run. I had 19 and a half years of my ex and if I knew then what I know now I would not have stayed in the relationship so long. After 15 years we then had a little girl but don't waste your life with someone so gutless. If you can't just dump him, ask him outright by ringing him and not texting him or ask to meet up as you want answers and you deserve answers. Meet in a pub/wine bar and then look fantastic and if you don't get the answers you want dump him and walk out with your head held high and let him know what he has lost. Plenty of decent guys out there for you. Stay strong always.
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reader, smeedle +, writes (7 February 2006):
 Put yourself out of your misery and dump this bloke, he is giving you the message that he no longer wants to be with you and just does not have the guts to come out and say it, you get in there first and tell him its over.
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