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writes:My girlfriend and I have a pretty healthy sex life, we have sex at least once a day or ever couple of days and enjoy it. I go down on her every day at least, or whenever she wants it, and make her orgasm by licking her, she says she loves it. But she never does like 'going down' on me a whole lot, she'll do it sometimes, but only for a few seconds, and then come back up.And now when I talk about her swallowing me, she puts up her defenses and says she doesn't feel like it right off the bat.. This all sounds selfish of me to ask her that kind of thing, but the reason I asked is because she did it with all of her ex boyfriends, and she has had at least 5 ex boyfriends she has done this to.. She talked about it with me before we got into sex like it was no problem for her, like she liked doing that kind of thing.. But now she doesn't want to, and I don't get it.. I keep myself "clean" down there, I wash it regularly, I have a healthy diet and I know "it" doesn't smell bad or anything, and overall I have a well kept-up "area" down there... I just don't get why she doesn't want to do that to me..She's amazing to me in every other way, she'll even sit down for 4 hours and help me study something or help me with a problem I'm having, and overall she's the greatest girl I've ever met.. But when it comes to giving head, she hates me!I'm 2 and a half years younger than her, btw.. She is 20 and I am 18, she's soon turning 21. All of her other boyfriends were at least a year or two older than her. Could this have anything to do with it?I just want to know why she doesn't want to.. It's not the fact that she won't, I'm not a sex addict, but I'd overall just really like to know why she doesn't like giving me head or swallowing me, but with other boyfriends it was second nature!
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 November 2008): I would never pressure her into doing it, and I don't "need" to have it to be happy. I was only wondering why she was so 'into' it when we just talked, and then when the time comes she just doesn't feel like doing that for me.I see where you are coming from with the "feeling like she has to" deal, I never looked at it that way. Thank you.I have no serious problem with it, I just was worried it was something wrong with me, I'm not entirely sure what. Either way, I'll still continue to pleasure her in any way she wishes (because I enjoy doing it also), and like you guys have said, I'll "put it on the shelf" for now.Thank you for the replies.
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reader, thats_not_my_name  +, writes (23 November 2008):
 hey! was she the one who told you that she did it with her exs? or have you just heard from somewhere else? she may have talked about it like it wasn't a problem cos she was embarassed that she doesn't like giving head...or maybe she was worried that you wouldn;t do things for her with out asking for something in return? (i'm not saying your not entitled to btw) the thing is, some girls feel really uncomfortable with oral sex. it doesn;t matter how clean your penis is...the idea of putting it in there mouth is still unpleasant for them. maybe she used to do it but had a bad experience with it and is too embarassed to tell you about? i doubt your age has anything to do with it. if you are concerned about it, talk to her about it, just be sensitive to her feelings and make sure you make it clear that you aren't trying to pressure her into doing anything. you just have to respect her wishes...don't make a big deal out of it..maybe find other ways of pleasuring each other other than oral things you are both comfortable with...maybe touching each other? that way neither of you feel hard done by. hope this helped xx
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reader, Petina +, writes (23 November 2008):
 It's just one of those things, like Marmite, you either love it or hate it. A lot more women than you think, hate doing this, so be grateful for what you do get or you could lose her. No one should be made to do anything they dont feel comfortable with. hope this helps.
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