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female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:Ok so back in November, I met a guy online. We talked for a while and really hit it off. We decided to meet up, and we ended up fooling around, no sex or anything though. But we ended up having sex the second time we met up. We continued to see each other for about a month, going on dates, hanging out etc.(but not really having sex,even if I stayed the night.) Until he started to pull away a little. I really liked him and didn't want to lose him so I tried to talk about it. He ended up saying he was concidering getting into a relationship but that I was too clingy. That it was too bad cuz he really did like me. I just don't give him enough space. We didn't talk for a few months, even though once in a while I'd ask how he was, with no answer. Finally in Febuary I asked him a question about his birthday present he just got, on his profile status,expecting no reply... he ended up texting me. We talked for a few weeks..he was a little nosey about my previous relationships..and he was really flirting with me. Sending me slightly sexy pics, asking me to also. He even apologized for being a dick a few months back, saying he missed talking to me. On Valentines day I found out that he just got back with his ex, and so we didn't really talk..till he randomly sent me an text saying hey on my bday..he pretended to not know it was my birthday..then sent me a shirtless pic with a birthday sign..even though he has a gf. He asked me to send him a un-naughty pic too..but I didn't. he texted me almost every day for a week..then I asked how him and his gf were, and said I was happy for him. He continued to question me as to why I was happy for him. Then after that convo, our communication came to a hault. We didn't talk for over a month..then he randomly instant messaged me the other day..just talking and catching up..he immediately asks about any new relationships. I had none really. We talked for a while then I got off. I texted him about 2 days ago, he texted me really late when he got off work and asked what I was doing... we talked a little. He started asking about my ex that I had dated for a few years and dumped right before I met him.(when we were seeing each other, he asked if I'd ever get back with my ex. I said no, but he didn't believe me.) He thought something was going on between my ex and me and when I asked why he thought that, he asked me when the last time I hooked up with him was, and to be honest. When I told him he never replied. He always acts so random and weird to me. He always refers back to really old convos we've had, he remembers everything about me, he is a little nosey about my relationships, he flirts with me it seems, yet he will go weeks without talking to me or replying to me. Plus he is dating a girl he supposedly really cares for. What I'm trying to figure out is if he is still into me, or if he's just playing games. And what I should do..cuz I've been pretty hung up over him..and anytime i start to move on, is when he starts talkin to me again.What does it seem is going on here!!?? Help!!
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reader, IHateWomanBeaters +, writes (1 May 2010):
 He is using you.
Don't play his games.
End it.
Move on.
If you show you are available and willing to take his crap, you are going to never get over him.
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female
reader, Moo's Mum  +, writes (1 May 2010):
 He is playing games! He's treating you like a toy he can play with when it suits him. Block his number from your phone and get number id on your phone so you can ignore his calls. He doesn't deserve your love.
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female
reader, cnith +, writes (1 May 2010):
 sounds to me like a player trying to keep his cards open. The moment he's bored with the gf he'll see if he can do it again with you... whatever 'it' is...
I'd drop him. Don't answer him anymore. And find yourself a real guy. This one's a tosser.
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female
reader, SeaCalm +, writes (1 May 2010):
Hi,
This guy sounds like he doesn't want you, but he doesn't want anyone else to have you,or if someone does he thinks he has the right to know about it! you need to cut this guy off cold!!!...don't answer any of his questions,or phone-calls or texts (change your number if you have to) he has a g/f so your love-life is none of his business...chalk it down to that's just the way some guys act..i hope you haven't given him too many details about yourself as this is sometimes how stalkers are born!
find someone who is into you that you can have a real relationship with
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