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writes:I was in a relationship for almost two years. Over the course of those two years we went through a lot of very difficult time (he was diagnosed with cancer and went through chemo). A few months after his treatment was over, we were cruising along smoothly but then he started questioning our relationship and pushing me away. I held on for as long as I could but finally couldnt take it anymore and broke up with him. Seven months later and we're still on speaking terms, and whenever one of us wants to get back together, the other doesnt, and we keep switching back and forth. Where do I go from here? I'm stuck in this gray area and I'm completely miserable. I've been depressed for the better half of this year and I'm just sick of being sad all the time. I've tried cutting him off, asking for him back, seeing what else is out there (unsuccessfully), working out, changing my hair, new clothes, more time with friends...everything I can think of to cheer myself up. But I only cheer up temporarily before sliding back down into a state of misery. Why does it still hurt so much so many months later and how do I make it stop?
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reader, flower girl  +, writes (26 July 2007):
 You need to get some help to try and deal with the depression, because until thats under control nothing will get better, when my husband left me i tried all of the things you have tried and they did not work for me either.
I went to my doctors got the treatment i needed and it made a huge difference within a month.
You don't know what you want because of the depression and maybe he s scared of a relationship because of the cancer.
Take care.xx.
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