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female
age
41-50,
anonymous
writes:I'm a 22 year old straight female and I think a colleague may have some feeings for me. She's 50 and married but very attractive and she is always looking at me. When she talks to me she stands so close, if I'm reading something she will lean right up against me so her whole body is touching mine and I can feel her practically breathing on my neck. She also asks me to come over to her desk and help her when I know she does not need it. She is not like this with anyone else so what does it mean?? Reply to this Question
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reader, TaylorChu  +, writes (12 July 2007):
 All I can think is of 2 things
1) she is attracted to you and wants to be near you
2) culturally it is okay to her to be close to people and be in their personal space when it makes you and other very uncomfortable.
You can ask others in the office if she is like that with them but it may get back to her. Or you can stop her cold in her tracks and tell her the truth. It makes you extremely uncomfortable when she stands close to you. When she asks you to help her with her work it prevents you from finishing yours. talk alone those lines and see how it goes. If you do find out that others notice the same behavior from her drop a note to human resources asking for help.
You do not have to take that behavior from her or deal with it. she is overstepping YOUR boundaries. It is time for you to tell her your boundaries and make sure she respects them.
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