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writes:My girlfriend of 2 1/2 years loves me endlessly despite everything we have been through. Our road has been rough but its always my fault. I've lied to her, cheated on her, left her and she always welcomes me back with open arms. Why?! I've told her she needs to be with somebody else. Someone who will treat her right and be able to always be there for her.It started when I cheated on her with my ex, I came to my scences and crawled back to her on the verge of tears. The second was when I broke up with her because i could never be there for her my job turned us into a long distance relationship, she still took me back when I said that I couldn't be with out her. And the third time was when my ex started causing more problems and I almost ran off to a different state, I told her to forget me I'm not worth all this heart ache. And after a month of being alone we got back together. She tells me I'm an amazing guy m, a catch of a life time I'm compassionate caring and sincere and when were happy together its the best feeling in the entire world. And she wants us to grow together. But we fight often and I feel like I don't deserve what I have. Plz help. What is going on?
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reader, CMMP +, writes (10 May 2015):
She doesn't love you as much as she acts like she does. She is like many other people who crave someone's love and attention when that person doesn't give it.
With some people, the worse you treat them the more they appear to like/love you.
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (9 May 2015):
 She is not living in reality and she's attempting to kill you with kindness. It's her kindness that made you stay that long but at the same time making you feel guilty.
The question is, why can't you become the guy she wants? You could debate this and say you were immature, you were emotionally unavailable but if I ever meet a golden smitten person, I would make that change to keep her. People all assume there's something wrong with her, she's a doormat but is there a chance she's someone who knows unconditional love? Someone who could love like God does, good parents do, and our pets do? Someone who sees the good in everything and inspires?
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (9 May 2015):
 Your submittal falls in to that category of "It's not you; it's me"... excuses for bad behaviour and break-up.
The guy you've described (you!) doesn't "sound" like much of a boyfriend, at all..... BUT, you've found that GOLDEN girlfriend who is so smitten that she will put up with all of your bu11$hit because she fears being alone more than she dreads tolerating you....
The real question herein is for YOU: WHAT PURPOSE does it serve - Does it advance the human condition? ...for you to behave this way toward this unwary girl?
Good luck...
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