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writes:I want to know why my mom is so against me? the reason I ask is because she only has two kids but, your mom is supposed to be there for you when no one is. But in my case my mom never helps me, she always talks bad about me, if I need help with somthing she is never there but when someone else helps she bad mouths them and me, or when I have accomplished something good in my lifetime she talks negative about that. Why does she call me bad names all the time, or why do I get the feeling that she doesn't want to see me happy? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 July 2007): lol i know how you feel. i dont know much but if you want to know why shes doing this i'll tell you what happened 2 me and u decide for urself.
when my mum was a kid she was the youngest and my gran (she had 6 kids) always favouritised my uncles. my grandad used to stick up for my mum but he dies when she was 6. so my mum was pretty much alone in the world. my mum now has 2 girls. im the oldest, but my mum always takes everything out on me and backs up my sister and im pretty much blamed for everything bad in her life. one day i asked her why. she said its because i remind her of my gran. (we even have the same name). i hope this story helped and dont worry im sure your mum really loves you, she just cant bring herself to show it.
XxXxX Enjoy life and everything it brings. one smile can change the world =D
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reader, leonard j.Douglas  +, writes (31 July 2007):
To answer your question one would need to go back into your mother's childhood and also her young adulthood. What was her up-bringing like? How was she treated within her family? Only you would know the answers to these question, but in knowing these answers you will be able to answer your own question. All Parents carry-over into their new families the good the bad and the ugly things that have happen to them. To be quite blunt if your mother was treated like Sh-t within her family,when she was growing up,then there's a good chance that's the way she treat her own children. Most abuser, themselves have been abused. Her ongoing abuse of you,even at your age, I'm sure, comes from a Dysfunctioal-Family-Life when she was growing up In the understandind of someone's past we can then learn how to tolerate them. So love your Mother anyway,even if she doesn't know how to handle that love.
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