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writes:Ok, So i recently lost my virginity to my bf whom I am very much in love with. I am pretty sure I was ready and have no regrets. I've done it five times now and it's not very fun. The first couple times it hurt alot, and not it hurts for like a second at the begining and then it doesn't really feel like anything, unless it goes in all the way and then it hurts all over again. I've heard that it doesn't take this long for it to stop hurting and I was wondering if you guys could give me some advice as to help it feel better..? Or just why it still hurts so bad, ans sex positions that are good for beginners and pleasureful for women... Help please!
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 May 2009): let him explore your body. just lie down on the bed clothes off with the door locked. let him do whatever he wants if it hurts tell him it hurts. he can try a different position.just relax and have fun.
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reader, Who  +, writes (19 May 2009):
 Well, lots of good info on your questions in this article:
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/thinking-about-losing-your-virginity.html
Look through the article fow what that applies to your situration.
I can also suggest talking about this with you boyfriend. Tread lightly; he will not want to hear he was not born with naturally great love making skills. He may get his pride hurt and blame you for any difficulties. But the fact is he is going to have to learn how to make love, just like everyone else. Go slow, try different things and tell each other what you like and don’t like. If intercourse is “not very fun” for you and “it doesn’t really feel like anything” he needs to concentrate on other things beside intercourse. Like lots of foreplay. A whole lot. An hour or more.
As far as intercourse hurting if he goes in all the way, it is possible he is hitting your cervix, the end of your vagina. If so you can try the “spooning” position, you lie on your side and he lies behind you, sort of like doggy style but you are both lying on your sides. You may have to reach down between your legs and help guide him in. To limit the depth of penetration, straighten you legs a little. For if you want it in deeper, pull your legs up towards your chest. He has lots of opportunities to kiss the back of your neck and run his hands all over your body; he should find out what you like and do it.
Best of luck and don’t worry. You two will figure it out; zillions of couples have since the beginning of time.
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reader, Dreamlover  +, writes (19 May 2009):
 Hi, there is no quick fix to this one hun, there are many factors that come into effect on this one, Some woman are quite tight in that department and it may take a long time esp if your bf is big in his department.
What you need to do is communicate with him while having sex, let him know when it hurt and when it does not. YOu both need to take it slow and ease into it.
My suggestion is taking it slow, also try to have loads of foreplay before sex, this generally helps the woman relax and also moisten.
take it easy hun
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