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writes:So, my wife and I just got "back together" she cheated on me and i did on her. we split because i hit her. i got counceling and now we want to work things out. it's been a month and i convinced her to have sex. she says she wants to puke. and had hoped that time would have made that stop. we are both attractive people. i geuss i just damaged her mentaly so bad that we may never solve this. we get along better now than years before, but no sex? i can eat her out and she loves it. i just can't penatrate her. i don't know what to do. counceling is really hard now. 2 kids i work day she at night with one car. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 November 2007): You both cheated yet you split because you hit her! Then when you try to get back together you convince her to have sex, you both are very young to be married with 2 kids but anyway your question was why does sex make my wife sick because she was not ready simple you are going to have to work alot longer than a month. Sorry to be harsh i wish you both luck and hopefully learn from your mistakes.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 November 2007): Well I'd like to firstly commend you and you're wife on deciding to work on your relationship and move forward.
You both hurt eachother and want to make things work now.
Its obvious that you're sorry and your wife knows that. Sex is a very emotional thing and I guess that it is just hard for your wife to trust you in an act that should make you feel completely safe. If she doesn't she won't enjoy it and neither will you.
Give her all the time she needs and perhaps talk to her and stress that this is important. Not just for your sexual needs but for you both to be happy. Trust is a very hard thing to win back show her that you are dedicated to her and when she does eventually decide she is ready you will both be having fun again.
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