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anonymous
writes:Theres this guy who i fell in love with over the summer.We dated for a short time, but we split up.Ever since i've been waiting to get back together, we've stayed mates and he's admitting to still liking me.The only problem is my parents wont let me see him cause i stayed out all night with him and got drunk for a one off just to see what it was like to get drunk.I know it's wrong, but it was my choice and i asked him to go so i should be punished not him. He won't get into a relationship with me because of my parents not wanting me near him, which i agree with.He's tried to talk to my parents, and got his mum to speak to my mum and dad, but nothing seems to be working. I don't know if i should try speaking to them.Im embarrassed to tell them im in love with him. But its hurting me that we could be together if it wasn't for him being forbidden to see me. Im getting quite down about and losing weight. How can i try and win back my parents trust with him?
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 January 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWell i did talk my parents round to seeing him
But we never got back together
Thanks anyway :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 November 2007): im a bit older than you i think (16) but ive been your age more recently i figured than phil the guy below and i have a different opinion on getting drunk that first time.
your parents seem quite strict/old fashioned so you may not have had any experience with alcohol, and all young ppl go and get wasted cos its fun, its what you do when your a teen... it may be a "stupid thing to do" but your teens are all about being stupid and learning from it.
however your parents dont see it the way I, or any other young people, do. they see it like the guy below so you will have to win back their trust gradually rather than expect them to change their minds dramatically.
ask them if they will let you see the boy under their supervision, e.g having him round for dinner or something. this may seem lame but if it leads to you evetually being allowed out with him why not try it?
gd luck
if nothing works just be a rebel, climb out ur window then go and see him thats what i do lol
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 November 2007): Getting drunk 'just to see what it was like' was a stupid thing to do, and your parents have reacted the same way as most parents would. They see him as a bad influence, and rightly so, if he allowed you to get drunk at your age.
Winning back their trust is going to be hard. You broke their trust once and they're taking measures that they think are right to prevent it happening again, and to stop you getting into what they see as bad company.
They have your best interests at heart, and it won't matter one bit to them whether you think you're in love or not.
Don't do anything to betray their trust and you might regain it.
Phil
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