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writes:After two days, we will have Eid in Pakistan after one month of Ramadan fasting. Eid is like Christmas for us in which we buy new cloths and shoes. It has been almost 10 years since I bought new cloths on Eid. My friends have gone miles in their life but life seems to have stopped for me. Nothing works for: I tried to move to countries like US and UK, my visa rejected and wasted my brother's loan. I,m trying to find a job here in Pakistan, can't get one. Now I have opened Spoken English center but here too I find only few people have turned up so far. I'm 35 but my life has yet to see any happiness and stability. My question is why nothing works for me?
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reader, MsSadie  +, writes (8 August 2013):
 Really, nothing works for you? Your car doesn't run? You're physically paralyzed? You have no friends or family? Everything you touches dies?You need to learn to focus on what DOES work for you in order to be happy. The things you listed in which you've "failed" were all things where you're shooting for the stars. When you shoot for the stars, you're not always going to make it but you still ought to be proud for having such high standards for yourself.If you want to see a string of successes, take smaller risks for now. That'll help you build up your confidence until you're ready to start shooting for the stars again.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 August 2013): Not having ever met you, that is a very difficult question to answer. However; I will give you an answer to help you to think, and give you peace.
Life is a challenge for everyone. You can't compare your life to the life of others; because each of us have our own approach. We sometimes reap reward, and sometimes we don't.
Often, things look better on the outside than the inside. We look at our neighbor, and his life seems happy and carefree.
He gets everything he wants, but it seems everything is good. he prepares, works hard, and focuses on his goals.
He may fail, but doesn't seem to give up.
That could be because he gives to others, and he shares his good fortune. His family means everything; so his peace and happiness is a return for what he gives.
Sometimes people set different priorities. All they need are material "things." So their life is centered around getting and accumulating "things." That doesn't mean they are happy or have love. They have lots of things.
You are unhappy; because you are comparing your life to the life of others. You must pray and just be kind to others. Look back into your life; and think about how you may have wronged someone you loved. How you may have overlooked something that was important for you to do.
Go back and fix it. You will find comfort in knowing you have corrected a wrong. Peace will come from that.
Ask friends, neighbors, and strangers where to find a simple job. Just so you can meet your simplest needs.
Say prayers of thanks for your life, sanity, health, and that you are able to reach out to someone as you have; and you have received this answer. God is good. He hears your plea. Be patient.
Do you have your health, your eyes, hearing, arms, legs, and feet? Are you healthy enough to work? Be thankful for it. Is there someone who has love in their eyes when they look at you? Be thankful for that.
Stop complaining and be thankful for the smallest things you have. You will feel blessed.
We all suffer setbacks. We have challenges to face in life.
We feel hopeless and feel down on our luck. Thinks get bad and go to worst. Then they must get better. That is how life is intended. We all get joy to despair, love to loneliness, birth to death. Such is the cycle that we call life, my friend.
Trust that God knows, and be patient. Keep looking for work and you will find it. Be kind to people, and you will find love. Give when you can, and it will come back to you as a blessing.
Sometimes all it takes is a smile to make a friend.
We can always find reasons to be disappointed. We can always find reasons to complain. We seldom take time to be thankful for tiny blessings. We don't because we take them for granted; and let being ungrateful get the better of us.
You are not alone. Millions of people are out of work. If you can find a computer to write your post, you have an education; and you are intelligent enough to eventually find a job.
Don't give up. Have hope. Be thankful for blessings yet to come, and you will view your life differently.
You are young, and life still remains before you. Things in the present seem dire; the future will hold things yet to come. You build hope by realizing all the good things that you already have.
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