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writes:My mum takes everything out on me. She blames me for everything like if the fridge has broken , she would say its all my fault and she says its my fault that Her blood pressure is high and also she says its my fault that she couldnt have a proper life because she had me young and as soon as I was born , she was pushed to get married and she often tells me that She doesnt love me and I ask her why and she says how can i love a ugly thing like you and she says my whole life was a mistake and She hits me and kicks me and often locks me in my room without food because she put a lock in my bedroom! I also have violent nightmares and I Cant sleep .. Please help!!
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reader, califgirl66  +, writes (16 July 2010):
My mother is very unhappy as well. If you are in school, you need to talk to a school counselor, because she your mother is abusive.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 October 2009): I am 47 and my mother blamed my father for everything wrong in her life until he died - most likely to escape her - over a decade ago.
She "attempted suicide" several times.
She threatened many, many more.
Her unhappiness is my fault.
Every sentence begins with "You make me feel...."
Nothing,is her responsibility.
I am married to a great man for 25 years now. We have no kids cause I was afraid I would be a terrible mother like her. Really, I am against the institution of motherhood.
I love my children too too much to ever make them suffer me as their mom.
What's sad is that you endure the insanity as a kid with the promise that when you grow up, you can start your own happy life.
No one tells you that the baggage from your childhood is always with you.
Til today, she admits no wrong. It was always because of what someone else did.
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reader, nick133 +, writes (18 October 2009):
phone the police. she has assaulted you whether she is your mother or not.
how old are you
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 October 2007): I know how you feel. My mother has practically blocked me out of her life. She can't tell me she loves me and when I say "I love you" to her she just nods her head. You feel worthless and that noone cares. As much as you try to explain to people they dont understand. But please dont stand for it.There's a life out there. I know it will be hard but try to get help even if you just ring Childline. You dont have to live like this. Trust me. Iv been through it myself. I know its scary but you will look back in a couple of years and be proud that you have got out of it. Dont hide away.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 October 2007): Your mother sounds like some sort of sick person please call the police becuase this is a serious matter and should be dealt with immediatly
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 August 2007): Well one thing is for sure my mom blames me for everything to. Everytime the computer breaks i say "what did i do? when i clearely did nothing and she is the cause of it breaking. But your problem is alot more serious. I suggest you call the police or someone who is in the art of social services. Your mom sounds like a sick woman i would throw her into jail because what she is doing is illegal and not only that but she can do alot of time and be fined for that shit. Please go and tell the cops or something because if it was me as soon as she kicked me or punched me and started acting like that 911 is my answer.
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reader, DrPsych +, writes (15 June 2007):
 Your mother needs professional help as she is battling severe depression from the sounds of it and you are coming to an age when you are old enough to recognise and act on those facts. I strongly recommend you talk to either a school teacher about this or ring up the NSPCC or childline. What she is doing to you is illegal under the 1989 Children's Act here in the UK as it is neglect, physical and emotional abuse. I hope you find the courage to tell social services (you can find their number on the internet or in yellow pages). I appreciate it maybe hard because you might not want to get her into trouble but at the end of the day they will want to help you as a family. They maybe able to provide services to your mother or hook her into the psychiatric care that she badly needs. You must remember you can pick your friends but not family and when you are a little older you will make your own choices about your life and they will be happier times. You recognise there is a serious problem here, time to act on that!
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reader, macboy  +, writes (15 June 2007):
 You Poor Thing!
There is NOTHING wrong with you!!
Never let her convince you that it is your fault.
If she wants to start popping out kids young, then it is all HER PROBLEM not yours.
Do you have a friendly relative you can contact?
A close friend you can stay with?
The best thing I could reccomend is contacting a help line, or a Women's shelter.
Are you still in school?
How old are you?
Do you have any brothers or sisters?
A help line will take care of the problem for you.
They will organize a cosy place for you to stay and notify the authorities of her behaviour.
This is certainly your mother's problem, not yours.
She seems to have issues that need to be sorted our professionally.
Remember, the quicker you get help, the quicker this situation can be sorted out.
In no time, you will have somewhere safe to stay.
Feel free to message me anytime.
I will help you in any way I can.
Good luck.
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