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writes:I need help. I'm 20 years of age and living with my mom as I cannot afford to move out yet - my boyfriend and I have been together 9 months. My boyfriend is very responsable, he pays rent, works, studies at university, owns a car and looks after his parents financially. We love each other conditionally and despite peoples thoughts and feelings towards us at the start, we defied the odds and can get through almost everything without arguing.After coming home the one night I was saying to my mom how hard he finds it sometimes that he doesnt have his parents to fall back on like myself and his friends do. This is what she said to me "he's a selfish young man, he doesn't actually want to to bother with you and youre going to leave him for someone better soon, the only reason he looks after you is because I tell him to!(I get ill often with migraines)You're stupid and naive if you think he's going to put up with you - he only looks out for himself"Naturally I told him this as its unfair to him as he does everything for everyone else and wants for nothing, even though he feels life has been unfair to him and never really complains.Now he feels uncomfortable coming to my home and prefers us to spend time at his house with his parents. This is not the first time my mom has said something bad about my boyfriend and when I suggest she is trying to split us up (on several occassions said "I think its best you had some time away from each other") she shouts at me calling me ungreatful and saying I'm twisting all her words.WHAT DO I DO?
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reader, petina1 +, writes (9 October 2010):
 My mum never liked my boyfriend, made it very difficult for me all the time, for 8 yrs. We can't always please others with who we choose. If you are meant to be together you will overcome all obstacles. I did, and I've been with him for 36yrs.
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