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writes:Dear all agony aunts and uncles at cupid.i have a slight problem, and i think i know what i need to do, but i would like your advice too. so there's this guy, and i've ALWAYS had a thing for him, and he knew but i don't think he's ever had a thing for me because he never talked to me about it and when i started talking to him a lot more, he almost ignored me. all my best friends are close with him, we're all like in a big group, but i'm the only one that isn't close with him, and i used to be. to be honest it has got to the point where i don't want him to like me, i just want to be over him; and i keep telling myself that i need to get over him but then i go to a party and when i'm getting ready all i'm thinking is 'have to impress him' but it never seems to make a difference. i guess i want to get over him and be good mates again, but i don't know how? any tips?
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reader, petina1 +, writes (9 October 2010):
 He knows you like him and is probably unsure of how to be a mate to you in case he leads you on or doesnt give you what you want from that relationship. He is in avoidance because of it. You need to strongly talk yourself out of it and get your mindset in to that you are 'over him'. Then once you have come out of that scenario, eventually you can go back in to it with a different footing and he will believe that you only want friendship from him. This happened to me a few years ago and thats what i did. I think I did too good a job on him though because when his next girlfriend broke up with him it was 'my' shoulder he cried on. Good luck!
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