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reader, anonymous, writes (26 January 2013): I am like him I like watching because when you're about to climax it is pure physical arousal at that point all you can think of is the release of sexual tension and anything that is arousing becomes that much more pleasurable that it overrides all other thoughts.
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reader, TrancedRhythmEar  +, writes (25 January 2013):
 Lol this is normal. Take it as a genuine compliment.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 January 2013): My boyfriend does the exact same thing and it really turns him on too. Men are just a lot more visual than us ladies, plus I think it makes him feel manly to look at himself pleasuring me like that. I personally like it that he gets so excited watching :)
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reader, JustHelpinAgain  +, writes (24 January 2013):
OP, why dont you climb on top and have a look and see if it turns you on? It may just be a penis and vagina but it is his and yours. It still special and its still love. After over 20 years with my wife I still find it amazing. Just try to relax and enjoy being together. Dont look for issues where they dont exist.
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (24 January 2013):
 I think it's pretty normal to be honest. He isn't being shallow I think he is just committing it to memory over and over because it gives him pleasure.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (24 January 2013):
 I'm with FA I was thinking... what body part could it possibly be.
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reader, Fatherly Advice +, writes (24 January 2013):
 Sage,
Snort! That's too true to be funny and I have some interesting memories along that line.
CMMP,
When I saw the title I opened this post just to see what he was looking at. I was thinking neck, navel, ribs, something unusual.
Original Poster,
The most telling statement in your question was, ")and for a moment he seems to forget about me only to focus on "that". That is exactly it. That is the definition of Orgasm. Everything else goes away. I suspect that in addition to that he is using the visual (guys usually have visual turn ons) to push himself over the edge. I don't think that makes him shallow. Shallow is when you pay no attention outside the bedroom. I also think he needs to be allowed that moment.
FA
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 January 2013): He's probably watching it because it turns him on more or maybe he's not so aware of it and does it out of concentration. I wouldn't worry about it but if you would rather him look more at you then you should tell him about it.
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reader, JustHelpinAgain +, writes (24 January 2013):
OP, why dont you climb on top and have a look and see if it turns you on? It may just be a penis and vagina but it is his and yours. It still special and its still love. After over 20 years with my wife I still find it amazing. Just try to relax and enjoy being together. Dont look for issues where they dont exist.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (24 January 2013):
 I'd say that that (what he's watching) is a darn-site better than him watching a re-run of a "Jerry Springer" episode whilest you and he are getting it on....
Have fun....
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 January 2013): That is quite normal. We men are visual creatures. That means we take great pleasure looking at the female body, especially those parts of her body. That is why the adult magazines, films, strip clubs, topless bars, etc..ctc..are such a multimillion dollar industry. Please let him enjoy himself and don't embarrass him especially if he is such a good guy.
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reader, CMMP +, writes (24 January 2013):
Uhhhh, I'd say that's so normal that it's a surprise to even see this question being asked.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 January 2013): Well "that" IS you, it is part of you, I do not understand what the problem is here? He loves you, he shows that love.
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reader, NORA B  +, writes (24 January 2013):
He seems to be a loving caring husband in the bed and out of the bed. I would suggest that you have a long in depth chat with him about this situation and find out the way he thinks on this particular sexual level. Best Luck Nora B.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 January 2013): Seriously I don't see any problem with that. If he is caring and satisfies you then what's wrong with him doing something that gets him off? Men are generally visual creatures and I don't see anything wrong with him trying to get a stronger orgasm. After all he is not using porn to help him climax, its you he is looking at.I generally think you are creating a storm in a cup.
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reader, Hennessy1989  +, writes (24 January 2013):
 So what If he needs to watch that during sex? Why would that make him fake and shallow? It's what turns him on obviously, I don't no what your expecting people to say here
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (24 January 2013):
Ok so he likes to watch the actual act of intercourse. ME TOO!
for a MOMENT he forgets....
is it ok... well for me it's fine. I don't see a problem.
he's your husband...do you think he married you for sex? why would he fake caring about you so much that he married you?
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reader, fzald +, writes (24 January 2013):
I personally don't think you have anything to worry about.It's very common to have a sort of "fetish" over certain parts of the body or certain acts of sex play. People think of "fetishes" as perverse or unusual things, but by definition a fetish can be anything that increases arousal. For instance, most guys have a breast fetish. :-)Unless there's other indications I don't think he's being fake in any way. He just happens to like watching his penis and your vagina. It really isn't much different than a guy who likes to stare at his girl's face, breasts, or whatever during orgasm. If it gets him going that much, let him enjoy it! It's not a whole lot different than people who like watching the inside of a machine while it works or something. It's just in this case it's sexual and it turns him on. Don't worry - you guys sound fine to me! Enjoy it! F
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reader, R1 +, writes (24 January 2013):
 It's easy to over analyse things during sex. He obviously enjoys watching, and as its you he's watching, even if it isn't your face, it isn't really anything to worry about.
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