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male
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30-35,
*mpatient
writes:sigh, i know guys are not the best at understanding emotions and what not. So here is the problem, iam going out with this girl for a year now, and its been long distance for about 6 months, because i was at uni in UK, nd she was at saudi arabia, now she has gone to Bangladesh for studies, and so the time difference has increased greatly. Since her family and relatives live there, so she is pretty busy,attending family parties and what not, she also stays with her aunt. So our communication has been a bit lacking, she explained to me many times that she is trying her best to contact me in anyway possible, also another point i have to mention, is that her family is very very strict.She doesnt have her own cellfone or proper internet.So recently, i have been a bit of a nag,whining to her bout communication and all, she seems to be indifferent now, not explaining anything to me,just telling me she is trying her best, to me it feels as if, she is fed up of trying to explain her situation to me, and dissappointed that i dont understand her more or something, also when i ask her about her feelings,she just says she is great,nd doesnt elaborate. Since we r both muslims ,our culture is a bit wierd,family wise..that is,her family has been trying to get her married ,but ofcourse they cant without her consent,now we both are sure we want to get married. but i did bring up breaking up once or twice with her,even though i know i wouldnt ever. but now she seems really calm wen i nag to her,why is that? and what should i do? advice and help would be really appreciated
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 July 2010): Because as you nag, in her head she's hearing herself say "oh, what a winny woman this boy is"... and is distancing herself for you emotionally...
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reader, tmariee  +, writes (24 July 2010):
well you should really just chill about things you love her correct? and you know she loves you. and maybe shes just stressed cause you do keep bringing stuff up and im sure she hears hell from her family about ur situation and shes sad that she has to hear it from you..just be supportive in everything you talk about.. and she has talked about getting married so obviously she plans on being with you for a very long time. so just talk to her about how you will be there for her and you love her and just cant wait for you guys to be together...in time everything will work out for the best(:
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