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41-50,
anonymous
writes: My ex treated me very badly and we split in new year. Anyway I got Radom texts from him saying he loved me and missed me and then last night I kept getting "accidental" texts from him which was clearly for someone eles so I texted and said you text me this by mistake, next minute I got abusive vile messages so I said stop contacting me! I fell asleep and next morning went to work and left my phone off, I finished work and turned phone on and loads of texts from him saying I'm coming to see you tonight and cook you nice food, I texted back saying sorry no you can't come down I'm watching my nephew and nieces at my sisters. He then responded by saying he wasn't coming for sex because I make him feel sick and he is happier alone , I didn't respond and I'm changing my number tomorrow when I get my new phone. I was with my ex for a long time and I jut don't understand is mentality, the abusive insults , I forgot to mention that he also text bragging how he has 3 laptops and trainers and all this over stuff ( he doesn't work). Why does he treat me this way. I know I shouldn't let him get to me but I do and it hurts , I loved him do much he didn't always be vile and nasty,I found out he does drugs and was doing drugs while with me, why didn't I notice?
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 May 2018): I hope he never gets your new number. If he does, change it again.
Would you ever think about being like that with him? I think not because you are a good woman (but do test those waters with other men that you may entertain from now on, Prince Charming is verrry elusive these days).
So - OP... Let it go and do not feel sorry for him. He's lied to you and is blackmailing you and is being very cruel.
You will move on :)
Un-tie the ties with that man who needs opiates to kill himself with, he is not your responsibility anymore.
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reader, N91  +, writes (10 May 2018):
 Whenever I see a post from someone seeing how badly their ex treated them but they always seem to say ‘I loved them so much’ I always have to wonder: How? I don’t get it. How can you love someone that treats you like crap?
The guy sounds like a manipulative loser, you should be doing backflips to celebrate being rid of him. Block his number, block any form of social media that he can contact you on and LIVE YOUR LIFE. He contacts you because you let him and he texts you those nasty things because he wants to bring you down and lower your confidence so you think you can’t do any better than him.
Leave him in the past, move on. Stop wondering why he’s doing this.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 May 2018): "Why does he treat me this way."
Because you let him.
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (10 May 2018):
 Why do you ALLOW him to still have contact with you?
If he treated you so badly, why have you not CUT him off?
As for why you didn't see or notice he was doing drugs while he was with you, well maybe it's partly denial? and maybe because you didn't think he would DO drugs.
Either way, THAT is not your fault or mistake. HE made the choice to do drugs, even when he was with you because DRUGS are more important that you ever were to him.
JUST block his number to get a new number and STOP letting him roam in your head and your heart. There isn't something GOOD to hold onto with this man.
ACCEPT that you dated a loser, that i's (THANKFULLY!!) over and time to move on.
Come on, lady you are old enough to know that you can block him or get a new number and STOP him from having contact and thus STOP him for keep heaping abuse on you.
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reader, Billy Bathgate +, writes (10 May 2018):
He’s acting this way because you broke it off with him and he is a selfish immature jerk. You are doing the right thing by getting a new phone number
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