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writes:I have a guy who I started chatting on Instagram ( just innocent ) anyway we chatted back and forth for weeks and he asked to meet for a coffee somewhere so I did, he is a nice guy but not my type, we get on as friends, anyway after out coffee he handed me and bag and said it was a surprise and to open at home, so I did and there was 2 bottles of channel coco, channel Gabrella , Moët champagne , and channel lipsticks ( the colours I love) I felt a little uncomfortable as was he expecting something so I said thank you for the gifts but I can't accept them, he said no please accept them I don't expect anything but friendship. Anyway we met again in 2 weeks and again he had something eles to give me and it was perfum and pandora ring in my size , I said you don't have to keep buying me things, he said I know I don't but I want to I'm just glad to have you has my friend, I didn't see him for 3 weeks due to working away but we still spoke by text, he kept getting funny cos he couldn't get through to me( my phone is on it's way out but waiting until I can get my upgrade). We met up again the other day and had a cuppa and chat and then he pulled out a bag , which was a new phone for me he said he bought it so he can always get through to me, I refused it as it was a 400 pound phone but he insisted I kept it,I said no it's right I keep it, but he wouldn't accept it back. What do I do?Am I wrong for not wanting it? It's clear he wants more but he knows I don't want a relationship but like to be friends with him. The phone is lovely and what I want but I will get it myself, he won't accept it back. How do I get out of this situation but in a kind way?
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 May 2018): Oooooeeee.
No cats in those bags though?
But, the cat is out of the bag! I bet that phone's bugged by him. he's a creepo I think!
You, I'm sure would like to find your own phone, one that suits your needs. Not one that suits his.
The perfume and stuff is to butter you up so you stop being "friends" and he gets you where he wants you. (You know where that is)?!
I know you're getting the feeling that something's not right here.
A ring...A RING!
Blimey, he needs to chill tfo! Mr bird of paradise has not put the sticks and petals in the right places. Some woman would like this, but now we have to not be sooo stupid. We all know what he's up to.
Don't we?
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 May 2018): Okay .. my question is how did he know those are all the things you love and your ring size.. I mean my husband wouldn't know my size now unless we went shopping for a ring .. and even if I spoke to someone about a ring I liked .. I would never mention my size .. and how did he know that's the phone you want .. I think sorry op that your hinting and then feeling guilty stop playing this guy
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (10 May 2018):
 I agree with Code Warrior,
TELL him that you CAN NOT and WILL not accepts any more gifts. And if he can not respect that, you can not be friends.
And honestly, OP... YOU are old enough to say no, thanks and stick to it.
Next time you meet up GIVE him the phone back. If he "refuses" leave it on the table and walk away. (make sure you have deleted all your info on it.. do a wipe of it if you have used it).
He is trying to BUY you, and by TAKING the gifts you are SELLING yourself piece by piece.
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reader, Billy Bathgate +, writes (10 May 2018):
Stop taking his gifts. If you have his address mail all of the gifts back to him. If you don’t meet him one last time. Place all the gifts on the table and leave. Don’t engage him in debate over it. Then stop seeing him.
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