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writes:I have an ex bf that I have an 12 yr old child with and he was the one to walk out before the child was born and has nothing to do with the child and he started seeing the child but what I dont understand is my ex hates my current bf that I have had for little over 8 yrs. Why would he hate my bf now when he is the one that walked out 12 years ago?
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reader, Cindy303 +, writes (31 March 2008):
 I have just entered a similar situation. My ex of nearly 11 years and the father of my daughter has just re-entered my life. After not seeing him or talking to him all these years he has made several comments to me that he is jealous when I am out and not with him. Or when I have a date with another man. He claims he has always loved me and that he still does. Because he admitted he gets jealous to me directly, I try to avoid situations and conversations that will trigger him getting upset about it all. I sometimes cant believe that a grown man can act this way. Especially because up until last year, we never saw each other or spoke. I guess men still carry alot of feelings for us women and they still get a shot of good old fashioned jealousy from time to time. Just so you know, your not in this situation alone. I am glad to see somebody else out there that is going through what I am. Best of Luck, Cindy
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reader, Ashford angel  +, writes (30 March 2008):
it sounds like your ex may be jealous of any relationship he may have with you or your son
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 March 2008): any man can become a dad but a real man is a father i know people that do not know their real dad but have love and respected a step parent who treated them as their own. it sounds like your ex is jealous of any relationship he may have with you and your son
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reader, natasia +, writes (30 March 2008):
 Because he's an idiot. : )
He doesn't sound like a great guy, walking out like that, and not seeing his own kid for ages, and looks like he's got unreasonable jealousy to add to that. As someone else said, he doesn't want you, but doesn't want anyone else to have you. And he probably really doesn't like someone else being father to his child, but he pretty much relinquished that right when he abandoned you both.
Take no notice of him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 March 2008): Your ex is an infantile punk, no matter how old he is. I would even be careful of him and his "visits" with the child he took no interest in before. He has no legal rights to, you know. He could have messed up his life and now thinks about what "might have been", but you should let him know that he blew it too long ago. Make it plain you have another life now and he is not in it...and that your present relationship is none of his business. If he is the nasty type, you might consider a legal restraining order for you, your child, and present bf. This can be done.
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reader, Namatjira +, writes (30 March 2008):
Some people just do not like their ex partners getting on with and enjoying their life. My ex so badly wants me to be miserable that she gets my mobile phone number by trickery at least once per year and then starts sending abusing text messages and phone calls till I change the number again. We separated nearly 6 years ago and the divorce was final years ago too. We have no kids together so no reason to stay in any contact and she moved 600 miles away. I cannot understand it but now just ignore it rather than let it get to me.
Of course your situation is more complex with your shared child, but still do your best to ignore and get on with things.
Good luck.
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reader, starfairy +, writes (30 March 2008):
 It sounds like a case of he doesn't want to be with you, but at the same time he doesn't want anyone else to be with you!
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