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*prvedgrl
writes:I stopped having sex with my boyfriend because he is selfish when it comes to giving. Now I seen on his phone under history that he has been looking at live webcams. Why is this happening? I can't get him to go down on me for long or even have him suck my tits. I never get any type of foreplay, so what's going on?
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reader, eddie85 +, writes (9 November 2012):
 Sounds like your boyfriend is a selfish lover.
Part of a man's job is to make sure that his partner is satisfied sexually. When he fails to do that, he is risking his future sex activities as well as possibly forcing his woman to go looking elsewhere. A healthy sex life is often the life-force of a relationship. When the sex is bad, the relationship usually mirrors it.
If you aren't being satisfied it is up to you to make it clear to him. By denying him sex, you aren't getting what you want either and therefore the problem only grows worse.
If your boyfriend isn't willing to meet you halfway, I think you need to ask yourself what you are doing with someone who doesn't truly care about satisfying you. Most guys would jump at the opportunity to sexually please a woman -- why would you settle for less?
Eddie
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reader, TrancedRhythmEar  +, writes (8 November 2012):
 person12345 hit the nail on the head. definitely a selfish guy... and there are men out there who love oral and foreplay.. trust me ;)
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 November 2012): You never get any foreplay because he doesn't have to give you foreplay. Nothing happens if he doesn't.
OP why would a guy change his sexual behaviour when he doesn't have to? Sure most of us would do so because we know it's what you want, this guy doesn't care so he's not going to change his ways and he's still going to get to have sex so why should he care?
The live webcams thing is not on though OP, you need to ask him what that's all about.
OP getting him to go down on you easy, no head, no sex, that's all there is to it. He gets sexual satisfaction when you do.
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reader, person12345 +, writes (7 November 2012):
 Your boyfriend sees you as a warm place to put his penis. Once you started wanting foreplay, you stopped being his masturbation toy. Your boyfriend doesn't give a darn about you, time to move on.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 November 2012): One has nothing to do with the other. He watches porn for entirely different reasons than whether he gives you enough foreplay or not. It's a separate issue.
If you don't like the lack of foreplay, speak up. As for the porn, don't have any expectations he'll be giving that up no matter how much you snoop or nag him about it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 November 2012): dprvd,
You have a mathematical problem here.
You want more so you are giving less.
He wants more sex so instead of talking to you he replaced you with porn.
Both of these actions are unhealthy for the relationship.
What is healthy for relationships, is shared intimacy.
Believe it or not more = more.
-J-
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