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writes: i been with my bf for nearly 2 years now, he know exactly what i want. and that is to get married. i ask him one time and funny that he said he need a time. its sound hurt for me because he is supposed to be the one who ask me to marry him but its not, its me the one who ask to marry him. i ask him maybe 3-4 times about getting married but he always avoid to talk about this topic. its hurting me so much because we are not young anymore. and i feel that he dont want to get married' this is the very best wishes i wanted in my whole life and i wanna do it to the man i love, but this always makes me unlucky.its always hurting me. how can i deal with this? shall i leave it alone and be like this for my whole life just for the sake of i love him or go and find somebody else who can give me love and the real thing i want it to be? pls. help. Reply to this Question
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reader, harley_quinn +, writes (23 September 2006):
 It sounds like he does not want to get married to me. I went thru the same thing. I was with my boyfriend for 4 years and deep down I knew he did not want the same thing as me but we were in love and I didn't care as long as we were together. Anyhow, he ended up breaking up with me 'cause he felt he was still young and wanted to "experience" other women. He was a very honest person which I loved but when we broke up he was a little too honest. I now think that the majority of males under 30 don't want to settle down. It's a whole sexual thing and it sucks but look at our society now of days. Practically everything on TV revolves around sex. I'm not saying that your BF is this way. If you really love him and can handle being with him without the title of "husband" then stay but if it's eating you up it would probably be best to leave. Hope this helps.
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reader, Toria +, writes (23 September 2006):
 Talk to him, ask him what he wants out of your relationship and where he sees it going and does he feel you have a future together and take it from there.
Some people just don't want to get married or fear it for different reasons but you won't know until you talk to him and find out, then you can work through what you want out of your life and make the choice on whether you want to be with him meaning maybe no marriage or is the marriage more important than being with him?
Good luck :o)
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