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writes: Okay well ... I've been talking to this guy for over a year and a half, he always wanted to meet up bu i hesitated .. anyway a few months ago we bumped into eachother at a club and since then we've met up practically every Friday/Saturday since.. He's always maintained that he isn't into relationship and all that, and I wasnt really expecting one from him.. however, this guy is like "the one", we have everything in common, talk every day for hours and on our "dates"... we sit in his car from 11pm - 5am and just talk and laugh .. anyway so it was all fine, except the other day he kept asking me whether i was a virgin or not ... and i had kept this from him coz i know he's very sexually orientated - and i wasnt going to sleep with him unless we were in a relationship.. so i finally told him i was.. and he has this strict policy of not having sex with virgins - not that i was intending on sleeping with him but anyway .. so friday and saturday have rolled around and he hasnt mentioned meeting up or anything close ... so i guess all he was interested in was sex ?i really want to stop speaking to him and get him out of my life ... coz i think thats what he deserves.. but i cant coz i love him so much ...ANY ADVICE IS MUUUCH APPRECIATED !!! Reply to this Question
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reader, Toria +, writes (23 September 2006):
 Some men don't like to sleep with virgins because they don't want to be the one that sleeps with them and breaks their heart when it goes wrong, this could be because he only intends on sleeping with you and knows he doesn't want anything else from this therefore it would be wrong to use you especially if your a virgin or it could be because he doesn't want you in a few months maybe years to feel you missed out on sleeping with others and he is the only one you have slept with and then decide to leave to try other things/people.
Good luck and do what you think is right :o)
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reader, Tiagre +, writes (23 September 2006):
Ouch, that must've hurt.
I think you really need to think about how you feel for him. It does sound as though all he wanted was sex, and he lost interest when you told him you were a virgin. When he said the whole 'don't-want-a-relationship' thing, I would have assumed that he just wanted sex, no strings attached. That would be fine if that was what you wanted, but clearly you don't.
Hun, think about it. All that sweetness and charm was just to get you into bed. If you don't believe me, answer me this, why did he suddenly lose all that charm when he realised you were not what he was looking for? You may think you're in love with him right now, but love is a two way street, and it sounds like he didn't care about you at all.
My advice is this: Try your hardest to get over him. Everytime you feel sad about it, think about how he treated you, and you DON'T deserve that.
Take care xxx
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