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writes:Why does my bf always disappear sometimes for hours/days??My bf and I have been dating for 6 months. Everything seemed to be going good, but for some reason a month to now he has change, before he would call me and night, to say goodnight and see how I was. But now he doesn't even call,during the day we talk and then he'll suddenly disappear.I told him how I felt calmly and asked him what was wrong, he says he is just busy with work. But who gets off work at 12 pm on a friday night.Im 21 and he is 25.please help Reply to this Question
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reader, Katie-Lynn +, writes (20 September 2014):
 This is something that I am trying to get over as well so I'll try to answer based on the 8 answers I have on my question that is similar to this. Like 'like I see it' has said, if he treats you wonderfully in person, like my bf does when we're together, him being silent is just him getting back to the way things were before he he gotten with you. He knows you two are solid so there's no real need to keep reminding you that you're loved and so on. You also have to think that men are indeed different than us women. I am just now grasping this I swear it's hilarious how much I understand this situation. Men don't need as much daily communication from their gf's. They're straight-forward and simple minded so like I said, he probably is just comfortable with your relationship now. I like how you said you guys have been together for 6 months because this started happening when we hit the 6 month mark too. We've been together for 3 years so.....you can see how long I've been dealing with this but together we're great so it's something I have to get over. Hope this helps :)
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (20 September 2014):
 It would depend from his line of work.
If he is a bank clerk, yeah, very improbale.
Other places, they may need him to work strange hours or do a lot of overtime.
But that should be sort of easy to figure out :
where does he work, and what does he do ?
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reader, like I see it +, writes (20 September 2014):
 What does he do for a living? It's 12 PM on a Friday night and my partner IS at work. Lots of people work late and odd shifts, from bartenders to law enforcement to people stocking stores after business hours so that in itself isn't necessarily a red flag. Unless you know for a fact that his job description is of the 9-to-5 variety, he may be telling you the truth.
How often do you see him, and has his actual behavior towards you changed? Shift work in any of the professions I mentioned (and many others) can change schedule at a moment's notice. And something as simple as a new "by the book" supervisor can make all the difference as to whether he would call you from work or not. But if he acts "off" or differently when you are together then you may be on to something.
It's also possible that he's getting more comfortable in the relationship and making less effort to win you over with affectionate calls and texts. Without more information, it's really hard to do anything other than guess. If this is genuinely upsetting you, it might be worth talking to him about it. Let him know that the calls and texts mean a lot to you and hopefully he'll make more of an effort.
Good luck and best wishes.
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