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*andygurl
writes:I never experienced the crazy baby mother drama but I have experienced the crazy wife drama. I started seeing this married man for 3yrs. We had a lovely relationship, lived 2gather and everything. My cousious got the best of me and we decided to break it off. I dealt with the decision just fine but its still taking him time. I thought if I ended this affair and not see or talk to him he would eventually accept being with his wife again. As the months passed he kept calling and trying to pop ova the house. When I would call him or text him to stop calling me his wife would text or answer his phone when he's not around or sleeping treating me to leave him alone but the truth that's what I really was doing for their sake. He caught her one day texting me and cuss her out I felt sorry for her and still do. Looking back in the past she always played on my phone, had other people played on my phone, poped up ova the house when her husband was here. It was a lot for me to deal with. People ask me why do I feel sorry for her why I wasn't the one who cheated on her but I feel like I'm helped him. Should I worry about his wife. why does it matter if I find sorry for her or not even though I did sleep with her husband
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reader, LLindy87 +, writes (26 September 2010):
 you feel sorry for her because you have a conscience. You broke it off with this man because I can only assume you knew it was wrong that you were with a married man. you did the right thing and clearly his wife still doesn't trust her husband and well, sounds like he doesn't deserve her trust anyway.
Don't listen to your friends when they say you are weird for feeling sorry for her, after all you should. You did help this man cheat on his wife, he is more of the bad guy in that situation than you, but you did help. Its wonderful that you ended this for them, but its not up to you what he does with that opportunity. Sounds like he still wants you, well at least not his wife.
If he had a conscience like yours he'd break it off with his wife and then perhaps you could be together again. But I applaud you that you stopped having the affair, perhaps let him know that things could be different if he weren't married but its nice that you did the right thing. Keep it up!
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