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writes:Well me and my boyfriend been dating for quite a while now and it was great. But I realized that I am the one who does everything. As in; if I wouldn't be coming to him he wouldn't even look at me. Well we're punk and we have kinda the same friends which we meet up with every weekend to go see concerts or just hang out together. We used to text 24/7 and he was so loving and cute. but right now he doesn't want to cuddle or hug me. Yeah, sure. He hugs me when I walk up to him n start hugging him. But whenever I don't he just stands around n talk with other people the entire day without even glancing at me. When we're at his place he just plays on his PS3 and only kisses or cuddles me when he wants sex. i really dont feel like having sex with him anymore. i dont know if it might be because i dont trust him well enough? he doesn't wanna come to my place anymore and doesn't give a shit about how i feel. whenever i tell him i dont feel alright he just doesnt say a word n continues doing whatever he does. right now i am crying, i told him i wanted to talk to him about it n that he should call me later. right now its almost 12am n i told him hours ago. he didn't call me yet. all he texted me back when i told him i wanted to talk he said 'why?' i said 'well what do u think?' he just asked 'U PREGNANT?' like he doesnt give a fuck about what i feel like. Yesterday we've been on a concert again n we were arguing a little bout that i didnt wanna come to his place n he was asking me n trying to convince me to go to his place. after all i said alright i gonna come with u. and all of sudden he was all mad at me. i might was a little dissapointed that he first asked me to come to his place n then say 'we didnt wanna meet so much because its killing a relationship...' so i told him i was disappointed n i hardly hold my tears in and he just looked at me n said 'yeah...great.' n walked away. like its my fault that he's acting like an asshole. i just dont know whats going on. right now im laying in my bed, fighting with my heart which makes me wanna text him because i just love him so much and i wanna spend so much time with him n he just blocks me away n whenever we do meet its just sex or talk to other people. and i cant talk to him because i dont wanna spend the time with him feeling bad i wanna enjoy the moments i have with him. i just really dont wanna lose him but i dont know what to do...
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reader, HereGoesNoting +, writes (12 June 2012):
HereGoesNoting is verified as being by the original poster of the questionbut i really do love him n i cant think about leaving him. i had an awesome day with him today. n after i was talking to him everything went better; he starts hugging n kissing me when our friends're around n i cant wait for the weekend to see if it holds on like this but he makes me incredible happy at the moment. he just left from my place minutes ago to catch his train. its 8 past 12 at night right now. idk if he's gonna keep or of he just lies. i might just be naive...
well he says he had about 6 relationships (he's 21) but they were all about 1-2 month. he only left a girl once cause she was talking trash about him.
what did u experience? is he gonna fall back to not caring? what do u think?
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reader, Cinnamon_girl79  +, writes (10 June 2012):
 I'm 32 and spent years in a variety of crappy relationships where i never felt truly satisfied or cared for. Only this year did I meet someone and for the first time ever have i fallen in love with someone who loves me in return. Its been an incredible experience, no doubt, no fear.. i didn't ever believe this could happen .. and now i look back and realise what sh*t I put up with before. Why waste your precious time on someone who gives you so little in return? Look at the balance! As long as you're trying to force a relationship to this disinterested and uncommitted man you are preventing any possibility of meeting someone who actually loves you . I can't stress this enough - if he is not able or willing to show any care for you, it doesn't matter what his reasons are, leave and make yourself available for someone who will treat you like a queen. Stay with someone who gives you nothing but heart ache and discontent or enjoy the freedom of your youth till you meet someone who loves you so much there will be no question about your relationship together ? The choice is yours..
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reader, HereGoesNoting +, writes (9 June 2012):
HereGoesNoting is verified as being by the original poster of the questionbut i'd be unhappy without him. its not like im feeling bad when he's around its just im feeling like i didnt even meet him when im leaving. it just feels so weird that he doesnt give a fuck. i keep telling myself not to call or text him but i cant stop myself...
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 June 2012): Hi, I am into punk too and know the kind of social scenes you're talking about. But, in whatever scene, a partner should always treat the other partner with respect. If he hasn't even got time to listen to you and be there for you it's not worth it. He's not being fair to you.
I live by the rule, if I spend time with a person and come out it unhappy, or spend more of my time unhappy, it's not worth it.
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reader, Cinnamon_girl79 +, writes (8 June 2012):
Leave him, heal your heart and be patient till you meet someone who genuinely treats you with affection, friendship and care before giving your love away again.You deserve someone who appreciates you more than just a piece of meat to fk when it suits HIM, don't you think? A decent partner wouldn't treat you with such cold indifference.. So end it and be strong, when he begs to have you back don't fall for his lies, because nothing will change. If he loved you, it would be impossible for him to treat you the way he has. You're young, go have fun and in time you will meet someone who is actually ready to love and commit ..I like this funny saying - Love is like a fart - if you have to force it, its probably sh*t !
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