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writes:Hi. This is kind of intimate and awkward to write about but here goes.So, I went on a date-sort-of-thing with this guy I like from my uni lgbt. He asked me. It went OK and I went back to his after we had been for a drink, and we kissed and got on ok too. I went back to his a couple of days later after I asked if he'd like to meet up again before everyone leaves at the end of the semester, and also because he's finished at uni and would be leaving.So this is where it gets intimate. Basically, I stopped him from giving me oral sex half way through - don't ask me why - I just did. Which he seemed *ok* with.He constantly asked me if I was okay. He didn't want to hurt me. Which was nice He then asked my, after saying I shouldn't take offence, how many guys I'd been with. I said one.We sat in silence for a while after. I'm not sure if this was good or bad silence.Anyway, I sent him a text after I left: 'sorry if I was in a bit of an off mood tonight :S Was nice to see you again. Let's not make it the last. Night' He didn't reply.So basically, now what? I hate to think that he thought I was a naive, inexperienced person who he only dated to have sex with. He's obviously more confident and experienced. I just can't seem to master coming across as anything but scared and nervous and naive. I would like to see him again. But when do I next contact him? Has he gone off me? Was I just a f**k? So many questions with no answers. Basically I think I'm a bit lonely. I really want to be intimate with someone and I've gone so long being patient. I guess my question is, what do I do next?Thanks
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 June 2012): Hi!
I agree with the previous answer and I also think that you should take your time with whoever you like, if it's a lasting relationship you're looking for. Last but not least, you should only do what you feel comfortable doing and discuss anything that might make you uncomfortable with your partner.
Good luck!
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (9 June 2012):
 Your very welcome, let me know how you get on. Good luck. Take care.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 June 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionYeah maybe that's it. I guess the only way is to ask. Thanks for replying to both questions too :) I posted a briefer one because no one replied to this
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reader, aunt honesty +, writes (9 June 2012):
Hi I think it was you I replied to earlier with the similar question, however this post offers more information than the last one did. I think maybe he might have taken you being so nervous as maybe you did not want to be intimate with him. I am not sure. However the only way is to ask him straight out. As there could be so many reasons why he never contacted you. Plus being so intimate on a first or second date really should not be expected from anybody so please do not beat yourself up over it. Maybe he just felt you both never clicked.
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