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writes:I don't know if im enjoying life to much but im doing the best i can.Im a really nice person, so i get told.If that's the case i don't understand why i get the treatment i do off others.I just started college this month, made some nice new friends, but history is being reapeted yet again.example, im doing a group project about teen pregnancy and my role is supporting it, i said to my friend, that said people should be more sencible, i told her that i knew someone who used protection their first time and the protection broke leading to event's that was not meant to happen, this was me giveing an example.She said well they should use two lot's of protection and i said that it was silly and nobody would do that. if that was the case then why don't they show a man putting two lot's of protection on in the leaflets? (i said it in a non ofencive way, that's the kind person i am).She fliped out at me (shouted at me) and said why did i call her stupid, wich i never did and also said, do you think you know everything about sex then, i stood my ground like i have been told to do in the past but didn't want to argue and she said told me to shut up.I get the feeling that this was an excuse to go mad at me because their was no reall isue their.I have been sencing that she has some problem with me for about two weeks.I have just been nice to her and treated her with respect.PLUS i can sence that other girls on the course have problems with me to, i have experianced an awful lot of this behaviour in my life to know if im imagining it or not. I haven't said or done anything to anyone, that's because im a nice person and wouldn't treat anyone other than how id wish to be treated.I have had to put up with treatment like this for all my life.I got bullied at school and at work and when i wasn't being bullied in the work place i hade them being funny with me, when i would talk they would not listen purposely ( how do i know, i didnt get much or any responce back), they would also mock and belittle me.maybe you think im being paranoide but you can tell if people don't like you really, (their body language gives them away)PLEASE HELP.Now adays i don't cry and i put on a good front but i don't like this treatment.:-(
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 October 2008): I go through the same thing as you! Workplace, school... social life.. I just get taken for granted by people everyday!
I know it's hard, feeling different.. because if you're anything like me, you will have no idea why you just never feel like you can BELONG anywhere.... it's like, the nicer you are, the more everyone exploits you. THEN the worry about paranoia kicks in - yup.. you're me in a nutshell!!
What I've found that's helped me, is to spend time with people I know REALLY care about me.. like my best friend. I spend all my spare time with him, because he loves me and makes me feel good about myself. Time with someone that doesn't really care about you, is nothing but a WASTE. Do yourself a favour, and stop trying so hard to make friends. I know it's cliche, but honestly.. if you accept yourself for who you are.. it really is the key to being happy. You'll be more content to spend time on your own, rather than hang out with shallow losers.
It seems to work for me! Me and my best friend are joined at the hip and when we're not together, I spend time on my own, reading a book.. going for a long walk.. listening to my favourite music.. doing something I ENJOY, rather than spending time trying to impress people that aren't genuine! Big waste of time and energy.
It's nice to feel loved and accepted, but even if you have one person in your life that can do this for you.. just one true friend.. you're luckier than ALL of those 'popular' people out there!! Be proud of who you are. It's great to be a little different.. accept yourself and be happy :)
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reader, Aunty Em +, writes (30 September 2008):
 Lovely, i don't think you're the problem. You have opinions and you stand your grounf when you express them. You'll fit in soon, they just need to get to know you and understand how you work. The girl who said you called her stupid is just a bit over-sensitive.
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